I think you can have a crush on Andrew, though I think of a crush as something before love happens so maybe that doesn't make a lot of sense. xD
I suppose it's alright to have a crush on someone else IRL, you can certainly still find other people attractive! It doesn't hurt to think "that person is pretty", it's another thing to act on it (unless you're in the sort of relationship that allows for it of course).
Of course, fictional characters and celebrities are fair game because you might think they're awesome and pretty but if you'll never meet them (or if they don't exist at all) I don't see the harm unless you start thinking "my hubby isn't good enough because he's not like -character-!", but that's hardly rational. xD
It is kind of an awkward question though for someone who's engaged. n_n'
I always thought--and try to actively practice in my own relationship--that if you are secure in your relationship, it's always for the best to acknowledge little crushes you have on other people. Because crushes are, for the most part, harmless, and you can't stop them from happening. Some people just make you nervous, are attractive, are attractING. And you know that it would never develop into more. I always felt that hiding that with an IRL person from your significant other was slightly like emotional cheating, but if you address it, it becomes a little inside joke and takes the threat away from it. Maybe that's just me. Granted, this hasn't happened with an IRL person to me yet in this relationship, but I always make a point of tell Ben which celebrity I would most definitely bang.
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I suppose it's alright to have a crush on someone else IRL, you can certainly still find other people attractive! It doesn't hurt to think "that person is pretty", it's another thing to act on it (unless you're in the sort of relationship that allows for it of course).
Of course, fictional characters and celebrities are fair game because you might think they're awesome and pretty but if you'll never meet them (or if they don't exist at all) I don't see the harm unless you start thinking "my hubby isn't good enough because he's not like -character-!", but that's hardly rational. xD
It is kind of an awkward question though for someone who's engaged. n_n'
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