that's true. but maybe i should've been more clear. it has to take both parties to truly work it out. but couples in general do give and take...that's how it is. one will give and one will take...and vice versa. so now that i think about it is usually a balance between "always" and "compromising" for two people. then again everyone is different so for me i feel like i'm generalizing what is possible in my opinion.