It's a struggle because I have no idea what I'm doing and nothing to fall back on.
Yeah, isn't that the truth. *sigh*
Parenting is always a challenge, since we don't have those huge families anymore where it was always part of life and you could see how children were raised. These days, there are no role models anymore, and everyone starts from scratch. To use your own parents as a model is the only thing you can do.
I think you're doing a good job, from what I can tell.
If you like good advice on parenting, Jesper Juul is a great author. His main thing is to be "authentic", i.e. don't try to present a front, and you don't need to be perfect. I'm not a fan of book advice, but reading one of his books is definitely worth it (just don't ask me which one, I guess they're all similar).
That is true that the family dynamic has changed so much. I just worry about raising a well balanced child since my emotions aren't. I tend to be more detached than others. Not because I don't feel, but because I don't know how to express what I do feel.
Also, I hope you and your family are ok. I heard about the incident at the mall, but didn't know where you are in relation to it. This world is falling apart. :(
I think it's awesome that you're determined to break the cycle for your daughter. And I wouldn't worry about making her too dependent on your praise. It's totally normal/healthy for children to seek out praise. And if she doesn't get it from her parents, she'll seek it out elsewhere. So don't be stingy with it!
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Yeah, isn't that the truth. *sigh*
Parenting is always a challenge, since we don't have those huge families anymore where it was always part of life and you could see how children were raised. These days, there are no role models anymore, and everyone starts from scratch. To use your own parents as a model is the only thing you can do.
I think you're doing a good job, from what I can tell.
If you like good advice on parenting, Jesper Juul is a great author. His main thing is to be "authentic", i.e. don't try to present a front, and you don't need to be perfect. I'm not a fan of book advice, but reading one of his books is definitely worth it (just don't ask me which one, I guess they're all similar).
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That is true that the family dynamic has changed so much. I just worry about raising a well balanced child since my emotions aren't. I tend to be more detached than others. Not because I don't feel, but because I don't know how to express what I do feel.
Also, I hope you and your family are ok. I heard about the incident at the mall, but didn't know where you are in relation to it. This world is falling apart. :(
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