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State of the Barge

Nov 21, 2011 11:44

Dearest barglings, this is just a small note to address all of you about the expectations that we have as far as behavior. Now, we realize that most of you, no, all of you, are good, decent, reasonable people. Good decent reasonable adults. But that is the detail that seems to be getting lost here. For the past few months, we have noticed an ( Read more... )

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TL;DR potentially...stuff. expectremorse November 22 2011, 00:55:42 UTC

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Part 2 expectremorse November 22 2011, 00:56:16 UTC

I take joy in each of you guys being alive, because reading stuff makes me happy. I think even in the darkest anon moments other people are taking joy in the things that other people are creating because who would make plots without people to talk like this? To simply be here and play, or be here and work, or be here and provide for my fellow man is peaceful and I know indirectly that people thank me for writing and stuff. Even unconsciously. (Okay that is a little shallow, but the flow of new content into any service is something I'm thankful for.)

Nobody has to do this. This is all in fun. Expecting anything more then that does everyone a disservice. More should be earned, not required. It should be earned in late night AIM sessions. It should be learned in chats and private injokes. It should be earned in that first sweet tag to a post where you are brave enough, nay bold enough to introduce yourself to a new player. It should be learned in that awkward moment where you say "Hey so-what if I texted you about this?" It ( ... )

Re: Part 2 impure_tale November 22 2011, 01:33:31 UTC

Thank you for saying all that. :/ You really have a way of saying things that makes me feel a lot more optimistic about things.

I just...I don't know. I get frustrated because sometimes I know a lot of the bad comes from a lot of people worrying that there's more bad coming from someone else? And it makes suspicions. Don't people get tired of assuming the worst about other players? Doesn't it get exhausting? x.x (This comes largely from my tendency to try to look for where there's been a miscommunication before coming down on any side.)

Anyway, thank you. I think a lot of people should take a page from this.

+1,000,000 aboutpower November 22 2011, 03:24:19 UTC

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+1 yeahscience November 22 2011, 04:06:44 UTC

I don't really go on RPAC all that much (although I do sometimes), but I've been a regular on other anonmemes in the past and had some pretty great experiences there. I agree with this -- let's not forget that there's no "anoncomm" entity that's posting shitty things and making people feel bad. People are doing that. We're doing that.

That said, I think the mods staying away from RPAC is probably a really good idea. It doesn't help to hover around there and legitimize the wank. People will still talk there! That will happen. But if we can all remember that there are REAL PEOPLE on the other end of the internet, with lives and feelings and things, that will go a long way towards not making each other feel like crap.

So... yeah. Let's just all not be dicks.

timesbureaucrat November 22 2011, 05:40:32 UTC

I agree that the majority of threads at anoncomm aren't dickish. But. The culture of participating in anonymity is what allows the dickish behaviour that does happen there to happen. As a Very Shy Person, I understand the appeal of anonymity, but when there are legitimate concerns or questions, they're best addressed directly to the relevant person or people or in the case of barge-wide plots to the community at large, not to a third-party comm where those who are best able to address concerns or questions might not ever see them.

I just...I look at the potential benefits of anoncomm vs the costs, and the benefits don't seem worth it. I don't think that anoncomm is completely a bad thing, but the 10% of dickishness that happens is so very toxic that it poisons the 90% of not-dickishness to such a degree that I feel anoncomm's capacity for evil outweighs its capacity for good.

brokenweapon November 22 2011, 07:01:26 UTC

Unfortunately, we're always going to run into the problem of John Gabriel's Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory. Give a normal person anonymity and an audience, and more often than not that person will hide behind the shield of anon to spew crap about others. It's the entire reason we have virulently racist and homophobic comments on news articles and YouTube.

Which is why I personally stay away from anon. Yeah, I know that sometimes anon can be fun and awesome, but every single time I or any of my friends have personally been involved with an anon RP anything, there was a kerfuffle and someone got hurt in their emotions. It's led to a lot of bad feelings in the past. And IMO people need to be accountable for shit that they say and do. We're all adults(ish), no need to play telephone like emotionally stunted high schoolers.

I would also like to link this video, if I may, as a rule of thumb for all:

hatestriangles November 22 2011, 12:15:53 UTC

I've got a couple things to say here, just because idk this is getting shit off chests time or something? So ( ... )

majorum_pride November 22 2011, 13:06:17 UTC

I guess I should add my two cents, at least on anoncomms.

I've had mostly bad experiences with them. I actually panicked when I got good secret on there about a year ago because I was terrified that it would be followed by negative ones of people trying to prove a point. For a while, I asked that no one tell me if I was mentioned on those places because I didn't want to know and I didn't want it to affect my enjoyment of playing a character ( ... )