Comments | lapis_lazuli615: LJ Idol - Friends and Rivals - Week 6

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LJ Idol - Friends and Rivals - Week 6 - I can't even.

Jan 22, 2016 18:33

For many years (approximately 17), I have counted my blessings that my children have been healthy and intelligent. We’ve had some minor setbacks with regards to attitude, especially once we hit the teenage years, but there’s never once been something with my own children that I have to look at them and say “I just can’t relate. I have no frame of ( Read more... )

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adoptedwriter January 23 2016, 00:44:58 UTC

Yuck, but yeah...It happens!

I work w DD students in high school. Yep! I can relate! Hang in there! AW

lapis_lazuli615 January 23 2016, 03:31:17 UTC

Fortunately for us, we are in a position to find a more... fitting placement? for those who are disruptive. She's moving to another program. SH will follow shortly. But Mr News is a good worker, so he'll be sticking around.

rayaso January 23 2016, 20:02:51 UTC

I hope it works out well for you. We need people with your skills. How on earth do you find placements for someone like MC? I enjoyed this very much.

lapis_lazuli615 January 24 2016, 12:45:01 UTC

I love the job a great deal but unless something major changes financially (i.e. they start paying me a salary that I can live on without my spouse-hole's contribution), it's temporary and resume building, not a life-long calling.

As for placement, the choice has been made to send her to a program where she has a little more freedom in what she does (i.e. allows free time instead of expecting work for 8 hours) and will help her work on improving the skills that she currently lacks that would help make her more successful in the work place.

rayaso January 24 2016, 14:56:35 UTC

It is very difficult to have to leave a job you love because of financial reasons, especially because of a spousehole. I'm sure that your life without your ex will prove to be an improvement.

prog_schlock January 24 2016, 11:04:23 UTC

You have the patience of a saint. I couldn't even handle your job. While I wouldn't take out any frustration on workers, I would just up and quit, I think, which is sort of equally bad as taking frustration out on them, perhaps even worse.

This song really doesn't much thematically, but I started hearing it in my head at the start of your entry (when you mentioned other people's kids) and I couldn't get it out. :D

lapis_lazuli615 January 24 2016, 12:49:04 UTC

Ah no, the one with the patience of a saint is the staffer that has been dealing with MC all this time with no relief. I actually have whole days that I can spend in my office, with very little interaction with the clients.

What should be interesting is that we're looking towards a "for profit" model which will include hiring neuro-typical folks to work alongside our clients to create an integrated workplace rather than a sheltered one.

fodschwazzle January 24 2016, 19:45:45 UTC

MC does sound like quite a handful. Do you feel like working with these people would have made it easier to work with the neighborhood child, given the experience you've had?

lapis_lazuli615 January 25 2016, 01:19:11 UTC

It's possible. Reading, though, is kind of a fundamental part of my being. I'm not sure if I'll ever have any kind of frame of reference to make teaching struggling readers any easier for me. It's just a completely alien concept. (I started to say foreign, but that wasn't strong enough.)

halfshellvenus January 24 2016, 20:38:01 UTC

This is challenging work, and yet like many others who have the talent for working with the developmentally delayed, you find reward in it, too. The people who are just happy and cheerful, no matter what (your JW and SP), seem to just radiate that and it's infectious. Few people we meet anywhere at any time are like that, but it seems less uncommon among the developmentally delayed. More both ends of the extreme, I suppose ( ... )