HI Paola! I think you're being a good friend to your friend. Maybe she needs professional help if she has these issues. What I think is that however much you try to help her, if she doesn't admit she has a problem and needs some kind of help, there isn't much you or anybody else can do. Sometimes we are blind to see the problems we need to cope with. I think you're in a very difficult position with your friend. I reckon you need to make her see that her behaviour is poisonous for herself. I guess it won't be easy for you to do that. I think your friend is very lucky to have such a faithful friend in you.
I totally agree with the others. She sounds like she needs the help of a professional. I tell people that it is sort of like an emotional tune up. Sometimes we need the advice of someone else to help us see clearly. As I work in the medical field I greatly value what psychologists bring to caring for people. As I have used their services as well I highly recommend them. As Ellie pointed out though, unless she is willing to go herself it will be useless.
Hi Kim! Yes, I completely agree with you; sometimes, advice from someone else, especially from someone who doesn't know you, can help. Sometimes I feel I'm a being too close to give her a sound advice. You know, when you're too much close to a person you're almost afraid to tell them things that might made them angry or sad. Now that my twin is getting married she is almost more interested than me on the organization of the wedding...she was appalled that my sister chose her dress on her first appointment...sometimes my friend scares me a little! I hope to find the occasion to let her think about starting to talk about what she's feeling with someone professional.
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I think you're being a good friend to your friend. Maybe she needs professional help if she has these issues. What I think is that however much you try to help her, if she doesn't admit she has a problem and needs some kind of help, there isn't much you or anybody else can do. Sometimes we are blind to see the problems we need to cope with. I think you're in a very difficult position with your friend. I reckon you need to make her see that her behaviour is poisonous for herself. I guess it won't be easy for you to do that.
I think your friend is very lucky to have such a faithful friend in you.
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As I work in the medical field I greatly value what psychologists bring to caring for people. As I have used their services as well I highly recommend them.
As Ellie pointed out though, unless she is willing to go herself it will be useless.
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Yes, I completely agree with you; sometimes, advice from someone else, especially from someone who doesn't know you, can help.
Sometimes I feel I'm a being too close to give her a sound advice. You know, when you're too much close to a person you're almost afraid to tell them things that might made them angry or sad.
Now that my twin is getting married she is almost more interested than me on the organization of the wedding...she was appalled that my sister chose her dress on her first appointment...sometimes my friend scares me a little!
I hope to find the occasion to let her think about starting to talk about what she's feeling with someone professional.
Thanks girls! You're real friends!
Paola
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