Bait and Switch?

[ladyofthelathe]

Thanks again for the support guys

Comments

[senare]

I think being able to stand alone would be a pretty good thing. But I also think she needs to learn how to work in the clique groups as she's always going to run into them be it school or work. It's just a thought. *hugs*

[copperdane]

I think you are on the right track. I really recommend the book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. I've found it really helpful in helping Tru navigate choppy waters. And me too :b

[erinya_dhaunae]

I think you're giving her good advice. For me, I'd say it was a balance. She needs to be herself obviously. It's not going to help her any to have her pretend to be someone she's not especially in the long run. Yet she does need to learn how to cope with the clique groups. The best analogy I can think of is when she's an adult and at work, she won't get to pick her work colleagues. Some she may like, some may annoy the hell out of her, but she still needs to get on with them all enough to be able to work with them. It's the same at school. She may not be a part of the clique completely, but she needs to be able to interact with them comfortably.

[anonymous]

Great advice guys! She did take care of business like I suggested, and both girls said "Oh, ha ha, it was just a joke, we asked everyone the same question." :| I told Kristyn joke or not, from now on, be verra, verra careful what she says about people to OTHER people. If its important enough to tell someone else, its important enough to tell the offending person first - in a tactful, elegant way.