Family

[ladyofdarkstar]

I agree with my sister. My brother is getting worse when staying with my mother. I don't know if she is purposely trying to drive him to this point, but his behavior is rapidly returning to the state of complete breakdown he once existed in when he lived with my parents. Mom doesn't seem to realize this. More to the point, she is allowing him to

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[corstis]

I truly hope she realizes what's happening before anything worse happens. I wish I had some sort of help to lend on this, but there is little we can do.

[ladyofdarkstar]

He is supposed to go to a Mental Health Center five times a week (9 to 5 like a normal job), but Mom has been letting him skip this when he feels like it. What has turned into once a month has now progressed to several times a week. He really needed that kind of focus from trained professionals to keep him grounded in reality.

Part of me, the angry part, thinks that she's doing this on purpose. If he's institutionalized, she can run off and marry her boyfriend with no strings attached.

I don't want to think that way. Oh, I really don't. But the thought is there.

[sithrose]

If he's not a legal adult, you can probably contact CPS about him...

If he is...There's not really a lot you can do unless he's a danger to himself or others. Not legally, anyhow.

[ladyofdarkstar]

::Sighs:: I know. He's only a year and a half younger than I am (re: 30). He's a ward of the state now, and he had a breakdown during the divorce of my parents (at that time he had his own place and thought the cable guy was trying to melt his brain with a device he was putting into the cable box) which had him hospitalized for days. The conclusion is that he can't live alone.

It's a group home, or with one of my parents. He can't stay with me, as his doctors told me that he would forever see me as the bratty 14 year old sister just trying to be mean when I tell him no on certain things.

It's just.... yarg. Hurtful, frustrating, and filling me with so much rage.

[sithrose]

Wait wait. He's a ward of the state? If he's a ward of the state, there's plenty of legal precedent for forcing your mother to make him go to proper therapy. If that's the case, find out who his caseworker is and contact them ASAP.

[lucide13]

There are some good meds out there for that. Seeing a shrink can get him from this to nearly sane with just a couple of simple pills. In fact one of them (clozapine) is a near cure. It has a dangerous side effect which doctors will monitor blood levels weekly for a while, but some people who have gotten on it have been "cured." No visions, no hallucinations, no conversations, no delusions of grandeur, NOTHING. You get your brother back. They would probably want to try something else first, but you should get him to see someone.

[ladyofdarkstar]

Is that a med that the state will provide? My parents won't pay for anything too expensive. Yet another reason why I want to pull my hair out.

[lucide13]

Absolutely. Medicare/caid will pay for a bunch of the second generation meds and you can likely get him on service connection for disability. Sounds like he already has an evaluation, but he really needs more care and more/different meds if he is having daily hallucinations. You may want to have your mom talk to some of the doctors because it sounds like her understanding of his condition has changed. She needs to know that for him to be well he needs daily interactions and STRICT rules. These programs will offer that to him.

[lucide13]

by the way I told you when I understand the connection between PCOS and diabetes I would tell you. Did you already find a satisfactory answer?