I "replaced" both Rafiah and Ray while they were still alive. Once I knew they wouldn't be, very soon, I acted to make sure I wouldn't be without a horse.
It's okay because you're not "replacing" anything. It's so very different, the new animal could never be the dying one, and is a person (you know) of its own. It's not at all what's happening. And it does no justice to your future partner, to think so. S/he will be so individual and different from Saedy, it won't make any sense to even think that once you get there.
I just feel so disloyal. She's been a good dog, such a good dog, and she's ailing, and what am I doing? I'm looking for another dog. I feel like I should be focusing on her, not on a different dog. I feel like I shouldn't even consider thinking about a new dog until she's not only gone, but I've had time to grieve too.
By extension, I also feel disloyal to Tessa. I still miss her.
all dogs gotta go someday. from outside the equation, the advice that getting a new one very soon seems wise. inside the equation and it's a lot harder, it seems.
Remember that getting a new one doesn't mean stopping loving the old ones.
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It's okay because you're not "replacing" anything. It's so very different, the new animal could never be the dying one, and is a person (you know) of its own. It's not at all what's happening. And it does no justice to your future partner, to think so. S/he will be so individual and different from Saedy, it won't make any sense to even think that once you get there.
I promise.
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By extension, I also feel disloyal to Tessa. I still miss her.
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all dogs gotta go someday. from outside the equation, the advice that getting a new one very soon seems wise. inside the equation and it's a lot harder, it seems.
Remember that getting a new one doesn't mean stopping loving the old ones.
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