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[ladyaeryn]

How do you kick out someone you've long ago politely hinted should leave

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[moonspinner]

Where diplomacy fails, candidness usually succeeds. If you lack the inate hardheartedness - or the courage :p - a note or an email can usually suffice for face-to-face speaking. ;)

Lovely Buffy icon.

[ladyaeryn]

Hehe... well, with the person in the next room, a note or email seems a bit troublesome. ;) I finally just sucked it up and told him (sister's boyfriend, who very much abuses my tolerance) it was time to wrap it up and go home. We don't like each other anyway, so I'm not sure why I was worried about coming off like a hard-ass.

And thanks - I'd been looking for a really good icon of her for ages. She's so much prettier when she smiles. :)

[moonspinner]

We don't like each other anyway, so I'm not sure why I was worried about coming off like a hard-ass.

Baffles me. There's nothing as liberating as mutual dislike. :p

She's a cute little thing, isn't she? :)

[ladyaeryn]

There's nothing as liberating as mutual dislike. :p

LOL - that's for damn sure. It's sure made dealing with bashers in various fandoms easier. ;)

[hvaharu]

I tend to confuse those tags, too... and used to think I was the only one. :)

[ladyaeryn]

I didn't do it before - I wonder why my brain has suddenly decided to start spazzing in that area. ;)

[lilith77]

Go from politeness to harshness... Sometimes that's the only way I'm afraid :(

[ladyaeryn]

I tried to be blunt without being too much so.

This guy really abuses my goodwill, though. I told my sister I really wasn't comfortable with her boyfriend coming over so much anymore (for a variety of reasons), at least whenever I was home, but he always tries to find ways around it. This time I allowed it because she was sick and he had the medicine she needed, and I meant it to be just for him to drop it off and go, but - as I should've expected - he showed up with his damn laptop and flopped down in her room for the evening, and he probably would still have been there when I went to bed if I hadn't finally sucked it up and told them to wrap it up.

Grrr.

[binary_suns]

Maybe a/another polite but firm and very upfront talk with your sister (not the boyfriend) about the situation needs to happen. You spoke with her about it before, but it seems the message didn't really get through. Being candid and upfront is the best way to go, when possible. It's much more effective than dropping hints, which people may either not notice or take as passive-aggressiveness (even if it is not intended that way). Hopefully you'll be able to sort something out that works for the both of you (and even the boyfriend). :)

[ladyaeryn]

*nods* I did the talk again a couple of weeks ago, and we did generally agree (though it wasn't pleasant) that he shouldn't come by so much. But the problem is being firm generally isn't in my nature, so whenever I do try it, I end up being a "bitch." ;)

But meh. What was I going to do in this case - keep her from getting her medicine? And he exploited that little window, as he always does.

I think the problem is just as much with her, though. I heard her on the phone before he came over, telling him she was trying to respect me and that he was just looking for an excuse to come by - but apparently she caved on that. It's not the first time, and that irks me just as much as him not respecting my own rules. (But that's getting into a whole Death Star-sized can of worms, so...)