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[kyttn]

I guess I must be starting to heal because my old body-image issues are starting to resurface. A year ago I didn't care who thought I was fat or whether they thought my weight makes me ugly. Over the past week, though, I've had something happen every day to make me aware of how huge I am and what I look like to other people and how many other

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[maverick_weirdo]

*hugs*

[bardling]

*hug*

[filkerdave]

*hug*

[mdyesowitch]

Yea, for healing

[kyttn]

I'd absolutely love to send my girl to you for framing once she arrives. I've been dreading trying to get it done locally for a number of reasons, and I really don't know anyone here I trust to do an especially good job (though I guess framing a black-and-white photo isn't quite rocket science). When the photo gets here, I'll contact you to figure out the logistics of it all. :)

Re: discussing things with my therapist - I'm frustrated with said therapist. We seem to have casual chat sessions and I never get homework or feel like we are working on anything. We spend the first 30 minutes of the session catching up on what has happened over the last week and the next 15 talking about any hurdles I forsee happening in the coming week. But I like her as a person, and I've been to or worked for far too many of the therapists in town, so for right now am staying put. Or maybe that is because it is easier.

[mdyesowitch]

Ask the risk of sounding like my annoying exboss, own this. It's your therapy, you have the right to redefine what you want, as often as you like.

I've walked in to my therapist's office and said, "This week, I'd like to work on my problems with bring comfortable in large groups." She's there to address your needs. But she's not a mind reader. She only knows what your needs are when you tell her.

If it's too scary or feels too push, email her in advance or send her a letter, if you don't have her email address and say, "These are the things I feel like need to work on." The check in is great but you don't need 30 minutes of it. Keep that brief and use it steer her towards what you're needing.

[annonynous]

It sounds like every day over the past week you met a shallow person who said or did something stupid to remind you of your weight. When we spoke at Boskone, it was your face that grabbed my attention. And maybe I saw and heard some of what Greg saw in you that made him so head over heels in love with you. So try to ignore the thoughtless jerks and just be the person that Greg loved.

Paul M.