This has REALLY annoyed me.

[kutekitty1981]

I got an email off Adam today. He's just been in Chester for The Whore's birthday - for 5 days - and he's going camping with a Dutch friend in August for a couple weeks. He's also still on the dole, and is giving up his computer course for the time being. The course that was going to lead into a job of around 16 to 18 grand when he completed,

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[anagaharad]

I think you should ask for the money back, just for the principal of the matter (because of course there is no way he could give it to you anyway)

That way you would get your point across and he would know how you feel about the whole subject.

If nothing else, it might be good stress relief.

[kutekitty1981]

It had been suggested, after lengthy discussion with Gray and with Mal, that I could either ask for all the money back or just the last three months worth - nearly £600 or closer to £200. I think if I ask for the whole lot back I'm unlikely to get anything because it is probably unattainable in his situation and therefore it would be easy for him (or for me if I was in his situation) to just turn around and say - no can do. If I ask for the 200 I might get that back, or at least get something, and it might have made the point to him a little more that actions have consequences and he has to take responsability.

[thegreybear]

I didnt mean to make you almost cry. I hope never to do that (but realise that I probably will, I'm only human...bear after all). We all have our flaws, in a way they define us. What defines us better is how we react to our failings and what we do about them.

[kutekitty1981]

It wasn't in a bad way.