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[kryptonstar18]

I had to do this one twice because there were so many questions for which I could have gone two different ways, and I feel like the combination of the two results makes sense (whereas neither one on it's own really would):

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[undomielregina]

Finally saw this. Yeah, me and my F-list have had only a nodding acquaintance for the past week. Anyhow, that's an interesting set, especially as they really are complimentary. You identify as a Top then? Or is that too intrusive a question? If so, I apologize.

[kryptonstar18]

Same here with the f-list (having friends in town is fantastic, but exhausting).

That's not too intrusive at all ;). It's actually quite nice, as there's no one in "real life" that I feel comfortable discussing this stuff with. Um, well, as I've never actually done anything, in terms of the whole bondage/bdsm thing, I'm not absolutely sure. I'm all about reading about it and looking at stuff, and I'm sure that I would like to try some (or a lot) of it, but I have no real life experience (I'm picky, in general, when it comes to relationships/sexual stuff, and I have trust issues, so . . . ). In retrospect (and, honestly, even somewhat at the time), I've definitely been inclined towards this stuff for much of my life. I'm pretty sure I'm a "switch," as I'd really like to explore both sides, but I'd definitely need a high comfort/trust level with someone to do so, especially if I was going to "bottom," or whatever. It's pretty weird to be talking about it, but it's also quite cool, so thanks.

[undomielregina]

I'm glad you feel you can talk about it. That's one of the best bits of the internet, that you're anonymous so you can share things. Have you thought about joining one of the BDSM communities? I'm in a few and they're good places to ask questions, learn, and meet people similarly inclined

[kryptonstar18]

Yeah, I'm usually not much of a talker, in terms of my feelings and personal stuff (other stuff, I can definitely be quite the "Chatty Cathy"), so the relative anonymity of the 'net is excellent.

I have joined a couple of the communities, both for my own interest and in the process of trying to write for the challenge (I'm NEVER going to be able to decide on a story idea! AAHHHH!). I've definitely found some good stuff.

It's really rather fascinating that so many people (or so it seems from my reading) can, at least in hindsight, identify (submissive/dominant/bondage-related) tendencies from childhood.

Interesting. I hadn't really thought about doing it in a non-sexual relationship. I mean, I guess I'd thought about it, but I didn't really think that it was something that many people would do. Huh . . . food for thought, I guess.

Topping does seem scary, as well. It is a great deal of responsibility. It seems to me (though I have no actual experience here so I'm basically talking out of my ass) that, though it can be