Goddamnit Fandom Secrets

[konora]

Wtf is up with fandom_secrets and secrets about asexuals lately? Why the hell is it such a hard thing to understand? I'm not saying there needs to be some kind of ASEXUAL UNDERSTANDING DAY or anything, but goddamn it's not a hard fucking concept.

Asexuals don't want to have sex with other people.

That's it.

That's the whole thing right there.

Everything else is

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[onetruesikorsky]

Probably because there are still thoughts of sex in basically every other sense except with other people. *shrug*

Far as I'm concerned 'asexuality' sounds like it should be 'I'm not interested in anything sexual at all'. That's just how I see it, whether it's the labeled definition or not. Call it shallow or ignorant or what have you, but that's probably how many others see it as well that don't have personal experience with it.

[konora]

I can understand that it sounds like it shouldn't involve sex at all. Unfortunately, no one's come up with a better term for it yet.

I guess I just don't understand why people who care enough to complain about it don't, you know, actually research what it means.

[onetruesikorsky]

Because most of the human population is generally ignorant to most everything that doesn't immediately concern them. Honestly I feel like people have this inherent need to label themselves as something, which makes me tilt my head. Like biromantic asexuality or something. I don't get this need to label yourself to conform to some sort of normalcy. Why not just call yourself 'you'?

I'm not confusing the possibility of love with asexuals, because that would just be silly, but the idea that you could eventually want sex with someone else because most asexuals have interest in other sexual ideas/fantasies really isn't that far of a stretch to me.

[konora]

It'd be great if one day people could all just be people without having to lump ourselves and others into identifying and separating groups.

Until then, people are going to continue to do what they've done from the beginning of sentience: try to figure out who and what they are, what makes them special, and give a name to it.

[joules_burn]

Mostly because it's not illegal

[stunt_muppet]

What I don't get is why anyone even cares so much that they have to go on and on about how asexuality isn't real. How is it any skin off your nose if someone you don't know doesn't want to have sex with other people?