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[kolhazmanyashar]

So the time has come...as it seems...

I met the parents yesterday. I thought I'd be meeting them on Saturday but then yesterday around 11 a.m., I get a call from him asking what I'm doing for lunch.

"Don't eat until 12...we might be having lunch with my parents," he said.

Um. Wow...way to catch me off guard. So I showered and got ready and at 12:15 we

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[kolhazmanyashar]

Thanks for stopping by and sharing :) Your point...about how you behaved in the past...this is exactly what I'm afraid of. It makes it difficult to open up and just BE when I worry about whether or not he's on the same page.

For now, this is ok...we don't have to be all swept away in dramatic craziness. If you read any of my past...you'd understand that I'm coming from a history of really dramatic relationships. None have been calm...I thought they were normal at the time but now I'm learning that calm can be good for me. I'm hyper-emotional so I kinda need someone to balance that...not add to it.

Hope you'll stop by again :)

Go with the flow?

[anonymous]

I think you and I have had similar experiences in regards to past relationships. My most serious ones have started off super intense and passionate and dramatic only to fizzle out into some ridiculously painful end. It would be nice to be in a relationship where things are just mellow and calm and comfortable rather than bi-polar where our relationship is defined by intense highs and lows.

But I do agree that at some point you need to question whether the relationship is going anywhere. What is the point of staying in something where the love fails to blossom. Although maybe the comfortable, grow in time, love is more sustainable than the "I will die without you" love with all the accompanying tears, fights and heartbreak. Oh well.

Best of luck in your relationship and please us out there in blogland updated. I still think you write beautifully and I cannot tell you how many times your entries have brought tears to my eyes, since I can relate to many of them. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us.

-Marni

communication and backrubs

[pinchersofpower]

I wish I had advice I could give to you on how I quiet my mind spinning out of control. But I'm still working on it, every day a little. What has he told you about his past relationships? Dr. Laura (ha!) says that dating is specifically to find the father of your future 84 children (she actually has a Dating 101 blog entry...). Three months is certainly not too early to have a 'what are your plans for the future for us?' conversation. And it doesn't have to be a dire conversation, it can be casual. Two adults in that are exclusively dating (are you?) ought to be able to find out where the relationship is going. If he freaks out (which I doubt, based on how you've described him), well then you have your answer. But note that just because he hasn't been thinking about the future (most women do, most men don't), doesn't mean he doesn't want a future with you. A relationship can still be "I like you" and "you're fun" and move forward into something serious. In fact, don't underestimate how important those two things are in a relationship

Re: communication and backrubs

[kolhazmanyashar]

I love you too!
xoxo