Still, I leaned out a car passenger window recently and yelled "ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?" to some twits who cut us off, deeply embarrassing my friend, the driver of the car I was in. I admit, I have anger issues. Well, they're more like fairness issues. I like to make things fair. There's probably a psychological study out there about how people like me drive ourselves insane trying to force the world to be fair.
I want you in my passenger's seat. "ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?" is about a dozen times nicer than anything I've said to the fuckers who drive around Boston lately. And that's not to mention the hand gestures. :)
But you're totally right about the fairness thing; you can get me to go from zero to asshole in no time flat by doing something I don't think is fair.
I've got a long comment brewing, but it's too chaotic to get down into coherent sentences. But I'd love to chat more about this issue with you sometime.
I don't believe psychodrama requires people getting into others' business. Some folks can generate psychodrama all on their own, without intercession. I do agree, though, that "public" is required for psychodrama to exist.
I have some more meaningful thoughts, but they basically boil down to commiserating that letting people mess up their own lives on their own time is a vastly better place to be for all concerned in almost all situations, and the best thing that you can do is to ask them how they expect that will work out (just to make sure that they've thought it through, and know what the likely good and bad outcomes could be - they may be planning to do something incredibly self-destructive out of ignorance rather than malice).
And no, sadly, there is still much psychodrama in our collective extended world, and it makes me sad and want to shake people (ironically, in the situation you describe, I almost always want to shake Person A, not Person B, but it's entirely possible that that's merely an artifact of the situations I find myself near).
I've also historically been extra judgmental in case we run out, but I managed to escape childhood with almost no sense that I (or anyone else) should enforce justice and fairness. Optimum outcomes
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Hmmm. Perhaps I need to watch that.
Still, I leaned out a car passenger window recently and yelled "ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?" to some twits who cut us off, deeply embarrassing my friend, the driver of the car I was in. I admit, I have anger issues. Well, they're more like fairness issues. I like to make things fair. There's probably a psychological study out there about how people like me drive ourselves insane trying to force the world to be fair.
I want you in my passenger's seat. "ARE YOU HAPPY NOW?" is about a dozen times nicer than anything I've said to the fuckers who drive around Boston lately. And that's not to mention the hand gestures. :)
But you're totally right about the fairness thing; you can get me to go from zero to asshole in no time flat by doing something I don't think is fair.
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Oh, how I wish!
I've got a long comment brewing, but it's too chaotic to get down into coherent sentences. But I'd love to chat more about this issue with you sometime.
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I have some more meaningful thoughts, but they basically boil down to commiserating that letting people mess up their own lives on their own time is a vastly better place to be for all concerned in almost all situations, and the best thing that you can do is to ask them how they expect that will work out (just to make sure that they've thought it through, and know what the likely good and bad outcomes could be - they may be planning to do something incredibly self-destructive out of ignorance rather than malice).
And no, sadly, there is still much psychodrama in our collective extended world, and it makes me sad and want to shake people (ironically, in the situation you describe, I almost always want to shake Person A, not Person B, but it's entirely possible that that's merely an artifact of the situations I find myself near).
I've also historically been extra judgmental in case we run out, but I managed to escape childhood with almost no sense that I (or anyone else) should enforce justice and fairness. Optimum outcomes ( ... )
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