On being the ugly girl

[kittywonderland]

He said you're really an ugly girl, but I like the way you play.

This post is inspired by a conversation I had last night with bobcatgoldfish. I don't respond well to being told I'm pretty/beautiful/even vaguely normal looking. I frequently claim to be "freaky" or "weird" looking and don't expect people to respond with "No you don't..." I have this whole

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[parisiannymph]

After all, I've been attracted to lots of people who aren't considered attractive by society's standards.

After years of beating myself up about my appearance, I have a love/hate relationship with my face. Sometimes I look in the mirror and get excited by my quirkiness; sometimes I'm glad to look different from the masses; I think that my face gets me modeling work so I should embrace the weirdness. Then of course, there are days when I don't feel so good about it. There have been several mornings when getting ready, I've screamed at the mirror, "WHY CAN'T I JUST BE PRETTY? Please, God, let me be pretty! Why do other girls get to be pretty and not me?!"

words can't express how much I love you for writing this! you are so unique and that's part of your charm, you would not look nearly as amazing in your corsets, alice in wonderland outfits if you were conventionally beautiful. loving your quirky look, don't ever ever change it!

[kittywonderland]

Thank you so much! I'm so glad you get this. I've got a special Alice in Wonderland outfit for today because there are nine of us going to see the movie together. :P

[colormonochrome]

when i was 12, a whole group of kids who i thought were my friends decided to let me know they hated me and kick me out of their group by performing a play about me at lunch. the subject was how my giant nose and prominent cheek bones made me so ugly that i could never get a boyfriend.

i've many more examples, but my point is, i relate. *hugs* maybe one day someone will find my ugly appearance attractive enough for modelling, as it's something i've always been curious about. ;)

[kittywonderland]

Yes, that sounds like the sort of thing I've been through. You should look into modeling. A lot of people are really interested in that "ugly pretty" thing I seem to have going on. Actually, when you hear famous models speaking they always say they were bullied at school for looking weird. :P

[colormonochrome]

that's true. =)
maybe i will give it a try once i get some confidence, or something. (>.<)

[siani_hedgehog]

"I've got an ugly face but great tits, so as long as you don't look at me from the neck up, it's all good"when i was younger, i felt exactly like this. i still regularly claim that "my best look is bare-assed naked but for a bag over my head". but i'm much more okay with my looks now. i look like a psychotic elf in a lot of pics, and if i don't make an effort i bear striking resemblance to chin-chan... but i've got big eyes, and an expressive face, and i quite like my own smile - if i wasn't me, and i saw the pictures of me on facebook, i'd think i looked like a fun person

[kittywonderland]

Thanks Siani, I like this! I think I do have an interesting face, although not pretty. :D

[accordingly]

I wish I had something intelligent and insightful to say but I don't, all I'll say is that I completely fucking sympathise. I could have written this bloody post. It annoys me that I care so much, too- beauty is only skin deep, and I don't care about other people's looks as much as my own, so why do I have to be so fucking shallow?!

Listen to what Matt says more. He means it :) xxx

[kittywonderland]

Thanks so much darling, sorry for the late reply. I know I should listen to him. You're fucking stunning and have nothing to worry about. x

[messycarla]

my boyfriend told me he got bullied because of his nose. when i saw my friends a picture of him, they always comment on how it's cute as a button before they even know!

i know i'm not conventionally pretty, but i honestly don't care. i like me, and my blog is starting to take off because i'm not another one of the snidey hipsters who write about fashion. it pays to be different, sometimes!

[kittywonderland]

I LOVE that your blog has taken off. It really inspires me to start a body confidence blog or something. You're amazing and you know how to dress for your body shape, which is why people look up to you.