Comments | kirin_saga: I need advice!

kirin_saga

I need advice!

Aug 27, 2011 21:40

This guy I met just a few days ago has just asked if I had any plans this week. And as lame as it sounds, this has never happened to me before. Also, I watch too many crime shows (CSI, NCIS, Criminal Minds, Rizzoli and Isles, Without a Trace, etc) which has made me paranoid ( Read more... )

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mmouse15 August 28 2011, 02:43:45 UTC

I'm 46. I wouldn't have a clue. The dating game has changed so much from when I was younger.

Um, meet for coffee somewhere and set a time limit, with parents calling you every 15 minutes afterward until you come home? That's what my niece did for first dates. Dunno if that helps at all.

But taking him home for dinner? No, not on the first date.

kirin_saga August 28 2011, 02:54:17 UTC

The time limit and calls sound good. I actually asked Dad if he could follow us, but sadly he couldn't. I'm that paranoid.

Dad suggested the dinner because that's what he did for all his first dates when he was younger. Of course, the world was a safer place back then.

I turn 28 next month. I shouldn't be this confused.

Thanks for the help.

mmouse15 August 28 2011, 02:59:25 UTC

You're not paranoid, you're being safe, and you have to do that. Pat yourself on the back. It's smart.

It was much different, yes. I dragged my boyfriends home to be scoped by friends and family, too, but times were different.

Yes, you should be. Seems like the rules change every month or so, according to my nieces and nephews. The dating game is more confusing than ever!

Good luck and have fun!

arizonaicerose August 28 2011, 07:01:24 UTC

I would say meet in a busy place. Like a coffee shop or mall. Pretty much anywhere where there are other people around. At least for the first couple of dates.

What I did was have a friend text me every hour and I would just leave a quick reply. This works almost anywhere and is an easy way to show the other people you're ok. (movie theaters however you gotta be careful with the phone brightness)

This is what I do when I go out on dates with others. I don't usually let them know where I live until I think I wanna be with them for sure.

Just about the best thing you can do is remember to stay where there are others around cuz then you can at least feel safer until you get to know this person.