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[kinsey_six]

he'll be fine, right?  this will avoid "only child syndrome".  he'll always have his sibling.  brothers.  but i'm having a lot of... not guilt exactly, but just sadness, i guess that our relationship is going to change.

Loving Two

I walk along holding your 2-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship. Suddenly I feel a kick

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[impeccablyme]

<3 This is one of the main things that makes me wishy-washy about wanting a second child. I fear the changes to my relationship with Delilah, and I fear that I couldn't love another baby as much as I love her.

FWIW, I think you're going to be an amazing mother of two. <3

[dreamsreflected]

I know this may sound strange but having a second child I realized I loved my first born even more, it changes your relationship for sure but my older one will always be special in terms of our bond that's completely different from the one I have with her sister. If anything having a second child made me love and appreciate my older one even more. it's like your capacity for love doubles :)

[impeccablyme]

No, that totally makes sense. Rationally, I know that's how it works. It's just that in my current experience, I have never felt such love for anything/anyone as I do Delilah, so it's hard to imagine having as much love for anyone else, KWIM?

[dreamsreflected]

if it's any consolation, as it turns out, it's hard for the first little while for some kids but after a year or so at that age difference he will barely, if at all, remember a time when he didn't have a sibling :)

[sandokai]

My thought is that it is likely any kid will have some challenges in adjusting (they miss having exclusive parental attention, etc.) but then that is counteracted by the neatness of having a sibling as that relationship develops over time...

[dynamicgirl]

The first time you see them play together... Your heart will melt! I remember seeing my sister's sons play together for the direst time and I fell even more in love than ever before!

[bluedano]

I shared this fear, but it works out. Remind yourself of that: It will work out, Jacob will be okay, and you'll love him in new ways because he's a brother. I realize not everyone is so lucky, but we've never had any real issues with sibling jealousy from Micah. He's ridiculously patient and helpful when it comes to his brother and sister. The worst we've experienced are some brief outbursts or tears over a baby finding and playing with one of his toys when he doesn't feel like sharing.

Most days though, it looks like this: