If you have someone close to where you'll be getting married, you can do it from a distance. Cara and I are planning a wedding in Pittsburgh from Guam, with her mother (doing most of the local planning) in New Jersey. So, it is possible. Just make sure you give yourself enough time to get things ready, and it'll fall together.
On a side note... do Cara's parents "resent" you or any similar emotion because Cara's in Guam now? Just curious... my parents don't love Dan as much as I'd like them to partly because I'm over 1000 miles away now (and that's not even as far as Guam). That's part of the problem with planning a wedding. Everything becomes an argument. I think I'd like to get married in or around Akron because that's where Dan is from and I have moved around so much. If I do that it's like my mom is "losing" some fight. That's why I keep putting off the planning. Sometimes I think it would just be easier to elope...
Her parents don't resent me, no. Or at least they don't seem to. They know we have to do what's right for us, and live our own lives. They'll work within that to see us as they can. We're also moving back soon, so no resentment necessary, though we still may be far away (we don't know where we'll be yet).
Just remember, no matter who's attending, or who's planning, or who's paying - it's your wedding. Do what's right for you and Dan. It'll be the day you celebrate every year on your anniversaries, so it should be a nice memory, not one of the time you worked hard to satisfy everyone but yourself.
Well, not much planning has really gone in to the whole thing yet. It has crossed my mind, but living in Florida, it just seems like it would be really difficult to plan a wedding in Ohio. Especially, since my mother won't make any effort to make nice with his mother. My parents are just not interested in "making new friends" or some bullshit. So, planning a wedding seems like a huge pain in the ass and somedays I think I'd just rather elope!!
Yeah... that's not really nice of your parents. It's really good that you're remembering that it's a day for you and Dan, whether families are being cooperative or not!
If you're not set on having a thoroughly traditional wedding, you could get quietly married when it suits you, and then whenever you were ready, invite people to a simple wedding ceremony that didn't involve major planning and bridesmaidy stuff. (Followed by a reception where everyone gets drunk and has fun)
Maybe that's a little unconventional, but the idea has been sounding really appealing to me lately. For my part, I think it would take away some of the stress of wanting everything to go perfectly.
Would most of your guests be from Ohio, or is the range so broad it doesn't really matter where it's held?
Yeah, Dan and I both have families spread all over. Mine are mostly in Michigan which means Ohio would be convenient for them. And Dan's grandma's are both getting up in age, so if we wanted them in attendance, Ohio is really the place to be. Anything can happen in the next few years to make travel more difficult for my grandparents too. I'm sure our ceremony won't be anything TOO traditional. I'm completely open to non-traditional ideas. I've always thought of having my mother walk me down the aisle, instead of having to choose between father and step-father. One thing that is fortunate for me, is I'm not one of those girls that has had her wedding planned out since she was a little girl, so I don't think I'm going to stress over all the little details. Although, I have a highly "stress-able" personality, so anything is possible
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On a side note... do Cara's parents "resent" you or any similar emotion because Cara's in Guam now? Just curious... my parents don't love Dan as much as I'd like them to partly because I'm over 1000 miles away now (and that's not even as far as Guam). That's part of the problem with planning a wedding. Everything becomes an argument. I think I'd like to get married in or around Akron because that's where Dan is from and I have moved around so much. If I do that it's like my mom is "losing" some fight. That's why I keep putting off the planning. Sometimes I think it would just be easier to elope...
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Her parents don't resent me, no. Or at least they don't seem to. They know we have to do what's right for us, and live our own lives. They'll work within that to see us as they can. We're also moving back soon, so no resentment necessary, though we still may be far away (we don't know where we'll be yet).
Just remember, no matter who's attending, or who's planning, or who's paying - it's your wedding. Do what's right for you and Dan. It'll be the day you celebrate every year on your anniversaries, so it should be a nice memory, not one of the time you worked hard to satisfy everyone but yourself.
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Just out of curiosity, did you guys think about having it in Wooster?
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If you're not set on having a thoroughly traditional wedding, you could get quietly married when it suits you, and then whenever you were ready, invite people to a simple wedding ceremony that didn't involve major planning and bridesmaidy stuff. (Followed by a reception where everyone gets drunk and has fun)
Maybe that's a little unconventional, but the idea has been sounding really appealing to me lately. For my part, I think it would take away some of the stress of wanting everything to go perfectly.
Would most of your guests be from Ohio, or is the range so broad it doesn't really matter where it's held?
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