I think this is one of the problems I have with the dance world. I do not trust the Popular Girls. They freak me out. I behave like a withdrawn freak around them. I second-guess their compliments and hugs and gifts, and they make my stomach hurt because of the second-guessing. I never feel cool enough. The last troupe I was in, one of the members was constantly agitating to go shopping together and hang out and BOND, and I was like "OMFG PLEASE NO."
But you are SO COOL! I am surprised that you aren't just like "hey, yes I'm cool, and I will consider your request to BOND... maybe".
I totally second-guessed it when I started, don't get me wrong. I really wasn't that cool, nor that amazing a dancer, but now I understand that all the good dancers who told me that I rocked were serious - new talent is so exciting and invigorating that as an established dancer I do in fact get all squeeish about good or dedicated noobs.
That sounds so wonderful. Your posts always make me smile, but this one did especially. There are certain convergences of women that make the atmosphere tremble with their presence and I think you've found one.
I've been as anti-Popular Girl as anyone (although I really like sleepin with them) but I've found that as adults, the Popular Girls aren't popular because they've got trendy clothes or cute boyfriends or ... whatever made them popular in high school. They're popular now because they're genuinely nice and pleasant and supportive and other people like them. Go fig.
I've learned to be as blunt about my love and affection as I am about your butt (yours is lovely) or your taste in shoes. Strangely, people come to like it. I figure, with a blunt person, you at least always know where you stand.
It can be... interesting... at work. This morning I told my boss it makes me unhappy when we do good cop / bad cop cause people think the guy who's always bad cop is a dick & I know he's not. Uh. In those words, actually. Thank $DEITY I work at a young, hip company and not a real serious one. I would be fired a thousand times over.
One of my favorite things about you is that when you say something nice or you seem to like someone, we all know you really mean it. Everyone always knows where they stand with you - it's refreshing. (And amusing as hell sometimes :)
As you know, once I'm sure you like me back, I don't hesitate to tell you, often, how much I love and adore you. And it's really hard to get off the list of people I like.
I think that's a fair tradeoff for being a pain in the ass.
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I totally second-guessed it when I started, don't get me wrong. I really wasn't that cool, nor that amazing a dancer, but now I understand that all the good dancers who told me that I rocked were serious - new talent is so exciting and invigorating that as an established dancer I do in fact get all squeeish about good or dedicated noobs.
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There are certain convergences of women that make the atmosphere tremble with their presence and I think you've found one.
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This is a good convergence of women. I wish I could effectively articulate the transcendent feeling I get with my tribe, too.
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I have the same problem with the blunt. How have you learned to overcome that? Because I lack those skills and need them pronto.
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I've learned to be as blunt about my love and affection as I am about your butt (yours is lovely) or your taste in shoes. Strangely, people come to like it. I figure, with a blunt person, you at least always know where you stand.
It can be... interesting... at work. This morning I told my boss it makes me unhappy when we do good cop / bad cop cause people think the guy who's always bad cop is a dick & I know he's not. Uh. In those words, actually. Thank $DEITY I work at a young, hip company and not a real serious one. I would be fired a thousand times over.
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I think that's a fair tradeoff for being a pain in the ass.
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