well ex to be has just repudiated the agreement. Her lawyer tells her she can get the house and full child support. She is allowing me this offer to keep my retirement
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Sorry to hear things are getting uglier, but I can't say this shit wasn't unexpected given how many times it's been mentioned that the ex seems to have an over-developed sense of entitlement.
My recomendation is to now hang her with the rope she's given you, and to inform her that she better keep that tip book square or the IRS could get a phone call. The IRS hates it when someone that gets tips doesn't report every last penny.
In short, no matter how ugly she can make this, I can (and will) make a recommendation on how to trump most of the moves she makes. Having been screwed over by family and friends has taught me, and then every now and again, being capable of being a rules lawyer isn't a bad thing.
well I did tell her to not alter it. My lawyer has asked about it..and if she does..well, I can't lose either way I think.
If she burns it or makes it unusable, then she cannot prove she makes any more money than what the W2 says. Credit? whazzat? Refinance the house? uhh...no. Support kiddo? toughie..car's $400...600 for rent, food, day care etc?... Thank you for playing.
she keeps it, then I get 2.5 months of solid tip recordkeeping info.
Good luck with the IRS. I have knowledge that my ex didn't file taxes last year because he owed 700 dollars. I thought that it would be an open and shut thing. No, they have to have HIS permission to search his social security number. Let alone that he won't file again due to owing them money and me around three grand in back child support.
My lawyer told me when I filed that I was allowed to get half of his retirement since we were married longer than 10 years. I didn't take it since he only had five grand in it and also, he worked for it, I sure as hell didn't. Oh, how I wish I would have now.
I hate to say it, but it looks like it has come to this. You might have to detach yourself emotionally to her now and treat her like a stranger. Because she IS one now.
I was hoping that at least one divorce that I read about would be amicable. Guess I was wrong.
I've decided to not worry about retirement. Value isn't very high (by my bad math, it'd come up to near $200 or so a month....after I turn 74 at this time. chances of her being ALIVE at that point? iffy. and that's simply because folks start dying on their own at that point.
It can still be mostly amicable if we work the agreement.
but I don't care anymore. If she gets kiddo, she will need me a helluva lot more than I need her. I have stable hours and a salary..she needs weekends free to make her money. I do not plan on using that as a weapon after the divorce..but I sure am thinking on custody right now. She want's the brass ring....go for it! please! I already know my worst case setup...it hasn't changed. It can only get better..and with things the way they are..I'd guess I have a slightly more than even chance of getting custody.
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My recomendation is to now hang her with the rope she's given you, and to inform her that she better keep that tip book square or the IRS could get a phone call. The IRS hates it when someone that gets tips doesn't report every last penny.
In short, no matter how ugly she can make this, I can (and will) make a recommendation on how to trump most of the moves she makes. Having been screwed over by family and friends has taught me, and then every now and again, being capable of being a rules lawyer isn't a bad thing.
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If she burns it or makes it unusable, then she cannot prove she makes any more money than what the W2 says. Credit? whazzat? Refinance the house? uhh...no. Support kiddo? toughie..car's $400...600 for rent, food, day care etc?...
Thank you for playing.
she keeps it, then I get 2.5 months of solid tip recordkeeping info.
{shrug}
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Oh, how I wish I would have now.
I hate to say it, but it looks like it has come to this. You might have to detach yourself emotionally to her now and treat her like a stranger. Because she IS one now.
I was hoping that at least one divorce that I read about would be amicable. Guess I was wrong.
Hold your head up. Really.
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chances of her being ALIVE at that point? iffy. and that's simply because folks start dying on their own at that point.
It can still be mostly amicable if we work the agreement.
but I don't care anymore. If she gets kiddo, she will need me a helluva lot more than I need her. I have stable hours and a salary..she needs weekends free to make her money.
I do not plan on using that as a weapon after the divorce..but I sure am thinking on custody right now.
She want's the brass ring....go for it! please! I already know my worst case setup...it hasn't changed. It can only get better..and with things the way they are..I'd guess I have a slightly more than even chance of getting custody.
I just have to survive to june..
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