Clingy Online Gamers (Amusing Drama)

[kayay]

girl_gamers is overall a good community. Though “girl” is in the name, and the majority of posting members are female, it’s not exclusive. Males are welcome to come by, get to know their counterparts, and join the chat. Sure, there are some that cause trouble, but overall it’s not the bastion of misandrists some would believe

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[karadin]

As a parent with a son who has autism, (aspbergers being a mild form of autism) I can tell you that one of the hallmarks of this disability is not recognizing social cues, there is also a tendency to focus on particular activities to the exclusion of all else - this is why it's a disability. If this person is suffering from the disability, they should have some sympathy, or at least if no one cares to explain (with out having to justify) why they don't have time to play, they should just let sleeping dogs lie, bringing the guys RL into it is really a bit much.

[kayay]

While I'm not denying there are cases where existing mental or physical conditions should be taken into account, I question whether this person deserves sympathy.

The OP was the first to bring up his condition to justify his rant. It may be attributed to poor judgment due to his condition to reveal something so personal to strangers, although maybe the friends he said that helped him write the post should have told him to cut that part out. He stated his case is "mild" and should not prevent people from playing with him. However, while mild AS may be a reason for a social misstep, is it an excuse to repeat bad behavior? The way he's continuing to blame others for not paying attention to him in addition to the claims that he had restraining orders against him makes me wonder, is it really the AS or something else

[karadin]

What bothered me so much wasn't the particulars of this individual, as much as the person responding who said 'we should expect people with autism to know how to behave when they are adults - and there can be no expectation of how someone with autism can behave - the same way that we cannot assume that persons will act adult merely because they have reached a yearly milestone.

[kayay]

I don't mean to try and start a fight -- I worry about perusing this topic -- but I wonder, shouldn't we have expectations for people with certain conditions or perhaps certain degrees of a condition? When we don't, might it be insulting to the people (and their families) with disabilities who do try? Just as we cannot assume that persons will act adult merely because they're a certain age, one can't assume someone is immature because of youth. A 40-something year old can behave more immaturely than a 14 year old and vice versa, so when we excuse a person because of their age is that fair to the teens out there who don't act like that?

Update: he apologized. I'm skeptical though due to his history. Oh, that branch he works for is the Integrated Defense Systems, which may be anything from military cargo planes to satellites and missiles.

[temiskou]

I knew someone exactly like this in real life (Actually, I am mildly afraid it's the same person, but can't bear to check), and they are truly terrifying people. At first it seems harmless, just another needy weird kid, but once you let them in, they sink their demanding hooks in you, and it's a horrible struggle to get out. You will always, always be the bad guy, no matter what you do.

I'm glad his behavior is being pointed to publicly as a thing to stay away from. I wish I'd had this kind of advice a few years ago.

Stay safe out there! And remember, you are most important, your time, your life. Don't ever feel like you owe anyone else these things.