He had a long wick with a flame at both ends

[kay_dee_moray]

New light. I really haven't dated anybody for longer than a month in my whole life! I never really thought about it, and now that I have, I've given myself a bit of an insecurity. I'm sure it's because I'm a tad eccentric, and I like to be the best at everything. It's hard for me to be in a relationship, when I subconciously think I know what's

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[elvenforever]

Actually, it sounds like you have a pretty good idea what's up with that! I find that focusing on my husband's good points instead of his flaws makes him happy and makes me happy. Just a thought! Good luck!

[kay_dee_moray]

You know, that's actually a good point. I obsess over flaws, because I am a an uberperfectionist. I never thought to focus some of that obsessing onto positive things

[elvenforever]

Of course, you know us borderlines tend to think in black and white, too. I find myself all the time thinking of people as either all bad or all good. I'm sure you're reading my entries about my family. It's VERY hard not to cast them in the "villain" role.

[kay_dee_moray]

Having borderline makes it almost impossible to have a relationship, let me tell you. I always try to break up with guys, and if they don't beg me to stay, and actually let me go, it's like, "What? How could you just let me go??? Ahh!"

[kay_dee_moray]

Aww. Thank you.

And don't let the young and sexy poets get you down. Many of them are transvestites ;)

Actually, I just made that up... But it's okay

[emocentrik]

i can top that, i think. how about being so artsy-fartsy that no one really understands you and therefore, won't give you the time. such is my peril. then again, i'm young and so are the women around me that that scene isn't so appealing right now. so, it's very hard to find a woman i can relate who'll appreciate me for the writer/poet/bard/painter/photographer (and i'm sure there's more) that i am.

anyway, why should you have it your way? the man should be willing to compromise early on in the relationship to establish a pattern of mutual dominance. if he can't handle a little order from you, then it only shows that he's very impatient.

then again, i'm only 17 and basing this on absolutely nothing. cheers, though! :D

[kay_dee_moray]

That is totally me in highschool. But get a little older and you'll find more people like yourself. You'll surround your self with people that have common interests, because the things you do after high school you do by choice. YOu aren't forced into the same building with everyone your age

And many guys view my domineering attitude as aggressive and intimidating. The ones who find it comforting, are usually the Norman Bates types. Eep

[dreams_glider]

Ha ha. Or maybe you are just too picky like every other girl on earth. Lol. Don’t look at guys if they are romantic or not, sexy or not. Just look for the guy who would love you the most, who is willing to cherish you and put up with you. Anyhow, I haven’t been in a true relationship either. Not because I’m ugly or I’m a bad guy, and I am not (I think), but because I’m not the flirty kind of a guy which runs around after girls with pick up lines. Anyway, this page is not about me. It is about you. So yeah, Stop being picky and don’t wait for guys to look for you. You look for them as well. Good luck and happy hunting. :)

[kay_dee_moray]

haha, maybe I am too picky. I think I get that way over time as soon as the magic of the first few dates goes away

[alphawolf1030]

I've had only one relationship go over the month mark (lasted 4.5). Some aggressiveness can be good. Help keep a relationship interesting. You'll find someone who appreciates you for you.

[kay_dee_moray]

I think my aggressiveness scares people off, but it would certainly be nice to have someone who could tolerate it without depending on it!