poll on French kissing

[kattahj]

After my post a while ago about my love life, where I among other things said that I'm rather bored by French kissing, I have had a couple of people tell me that they don't like French kissing either. It made me wonder just how common this occurence is, and so I created a little poll. I hope a lot of you answer it, so I can get a statistical sample

Comments

[deslea]

I love open-mouthed kissing - it's one of my top turn-ons - but full-on french kissing, meh. My mouth feels kinda...crowded.

[kattahj]

So where would you say the line goes between open mouth kissing and French kissing? I'm aware that there *is* a line, but not so much of the specifics, since so far, I've never kissed anyone who didn't seem to go "Geronimo!" the moment I as much as parted my lips.

[deslea]

Hmm. I don't know how, er, technically accurate this is, but my personal line is, if there's the tip of a tongue teasing me somewhere near the front of my mouth, that's okay...if there's like this whole tongue on a rampage, ew. Am I the only one whose mouth actually hurts trying to stay open for that?

[kattahj]

Hmm. I don't know how, er, technically accurate this is, but my personal line is, if there's the tip of a tongue teasing me somewhere near the front of my mouth, that's okay...if there's like this whole tongue on a rampage, ew.

Gotcha. I've tried to initiate the tip-of-tongue kissing, but it never seems to work that way. *pouts*

Am I the only one whose mouth actually hurts trying to stay open for that?

I don't know. My mouth doesn't hurt, I just can't get much sensation out of it.

Of course, there was the disastrous guy who seemed to want to see how far down my throat he could go...

[jensugah]

[kattahj]

See, for me, doing it has sort of spoiled watching it - I loved watching kisses on TV before, but now I'm all, "Meh. Move tongue from mouth to better area."

[jensugah]

[kattahj]

I think you misunderstand me - I used to like the fake. It's the reminder of reality that turns me off.

[wesleysgirl]

I voted for "fun, but overrated." I think a little judicious tongue, used properly, can be very hot. But there are plenty of people french-kissing who are NOT good at it and should have their licenses revoked. :-P

[kattahj]

I don't know if I've just encountered very bad kissers. So far it's all followed the same pattern. Things get hot, we pet each other and lip-kiss/tip-of-the-tongue-kiss different body parts, and then the moment our lips touch each other - WHAM! there's a tongue in my mouth, preventing me from feeling much of anything at all because my concentration is all occupied by tongue. And if I pull back, it takes a couple of minutes (or if I'm really out of luck, a couple of seconds) and then the tongue is straight back in my mouth again.

[lilith_morgana]

I love kissing. Sometimes kissing and fully dressed touching is more exciting than the actual sex to me, because oh, attraction can be so much about the unresolved tension. But so far in my life I've only ever kissed one person who was really fucking amazing at his job. Most people are too impatient, use too much tongue and overrate the tongue's importance.

So I voted for fun, but overrated. Because yeah.

[kattahj]

Most people are too impatient, use too much tongue and overrate the tongue's importance.

That's pretty much it, actually. I like all the other bits of touching and body-kissing - it's just that they keep getting interrupted by tongue.

[starbright73]

Why can't I answer the poll :( Bias against netscapers again? *glares at LJ*

With the right person frensh kissing is just WOW! But with the wrong person it's just grouse. I guess it's good when two with similar techmiques do it, if not, it's a disaster. But with the right person and a good "technique" it's the most sensual thing possible.

Got me to thinking about that in some cultures it's conidered more intimate than sexual intercourse.

[kattahj]

Why can't I answer the poll :( Bias against netscapers again? *glares at LJ*

Aw. I had no idea LJ was mean to netscapers. A pity.

But with the right person and a good "technique" it's the most sensual thing possible.

I think one of my problems is that even if I found a "right person" I would have a lousy tecnique, since I get so turned off by the kissing I'm exposed to that I don't get much of an urge (or opportunity) to practice the kind of kissing I'd *like* to do. *sigh*

Got me to thinking about that in some cultures it's conidered more intimate than sexual intercourse.

Really? *curious* Which cultures?

?

[starbright73]

I can't find the article, but I remember it was somewhere in Asia. a tribe with a endlessly long name that by now shares nothing but the culture.

Anthropologists figured it was because infants died at an alarming rate so sex was just fine because they needed the children and the taboos was transferred to the kissing part of relations. Lips were considered holy and there was an awful lot of things they couldn't touch.

Re: ?

[kattahj]

Huh. Well, anything is normal compared to the Victorian idea that table legs were dirty and had to be covered up.