Humpday poll - My business

[katestine]

Poll Biting my tongue

This week's poll comes from that story from Canada, a random post by cmdr0, and a few recent observations.

Comments

[elkor]

When eating sushi, I eat the pickled ginger:

On the sushi after it has been marinading in the soy sauce and wasabi.

I find it is the best way to get an even amount of spiciness and soy flavor without being overbearing (which is what happens when I dip the sushi in the sauce)

[boymeat]

I've actually only recently begun enjoying the ginger on top of my sushi/sashimi pieces. I find it boosts the enjoyment factor of some of the more mild tasting pieces, like tuna or fluke.

Guess I'm weird too.

Explanations...

[seawasp]

1) In actuality, ALWAYS tell the father -- but make sure the mother (if alive and involved) knows first, if possible, or at the same time. You want some way to gauge reaction and possible Really Bad Consequences.

WHY should you tell him? Because there are a number of situations where it is important to know who the blood relatives of someone are, including health ones, and if the father doesn't know he isn't the bio father, there will at the least be a potentially dangerous delay while that's found out.

2) It takes a hell of a lot of exercise to make up for even a little bit of extra caloric intake. If you're eating 3,000 calories a day, you'd better take up something like hard-rock mining if you want to work it all off. Much easier, though harder on the will perhaps, to cut back on the food.

3) If both are equally easy to do, obviously getting the better paying job. You don't have to change spending habits, just keep going as you were.

4) I eat a little bit once in a while, but not in between every bit of sushi.

Re: Explanations...#3

[dwarfrage]

To take a page out of Your Money or Your Life, a book my wife loves, my only issue is that better jobs generally have more requirements that cost you money to keep up appearances. Now it isn't universally true; but hey, what is?

Re: Explanations...

[seawasp]

The assumption in the discussion that led to (1) was that the mother knows, but the father didn't know his wife was cheating on him. Which is a bit awkward, to say the least.

Agreed on (2) and (3) on all counts, but wondered what other people would have to say, given that I occasionally see posts on lj where people obsess about saving a few bucks when they could, y'know, find ways of improving their cash flow instead.

(4) means we can have sushi together :)

-K@w.

Re: Explanations...

[jadia]

Huh, I don't think I agree with (3). Part of this is context. I clearly agree with it on some level, because I'm not angsting about living like a grad student forever; instead, I'm waiting until I get out and start earning money instead of a stipend. I definitely angst about saving money *now*, but I clearly view the solution to my problems as increasing income rather than spending less

[meep]

What story from Canada?

[meep]

http://www.canadiancrc.com/articles/Globe_and_Mail_Moms_Little_secret_14DEC02.htm

Discussion of that article here: http://ernunnos.livejournal.com/1441602.html

[kenshi]

How very interesting that the only respondents who say "never tell the father" are so far all women.

Let me ask a related question: If you had absolute proof that a man was embezzling many tens of thousands of dollars from the bank at which he works, should you tell the bank about it even if he might lose his job and go to jail?

This is a precise analogy to the paternity question, and the answer should be the same in either case: you're ethically obligated to tell the victim of the fraud if you have proof.

[kenshi]

My read on the gender breakdown is that if the child was unborn, one could argue that it's a "my body my choice" sort of an issue, although interestingly, the (so-far) 4 women who responded are not uniformly liberal.

-K@w.