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kateamdahl

Second Life Singles Heaven

Mar 25, 2008 11:55

Last week my friend Kit started a discussion on her blog about why she didn't get hit on more often. An interesting exchange followed, all about what's in your profile, Second Life body language, Second Life gender and First Life gender, social skills, and all that.

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underpope March 25 2008, 18:07:26 UTC

My avatar, Zoe Compton, hardly ever gets hit on, even though I designed her to be cute and attractive (by my own standards, at least, which I suppose aren't the same as the ones employed by the "I WANT SECKS" crowd). I had always assumed it was because I was don't keep my RL gender a secret (it's right in my profile); but now, after reading this post and Kit's post, I'm beginning to wonder if there's something else afoot.

Not that I want to get hit on, of course. That would be kind of creepy.

anonymous March 31 2008, 18:22:19 UTC

I think there's a real need for a few good services here, from venues and singles events to a better way to meet people. I've been bouncing a few ideas around with Phoenix and I'd love to get your input on them too. If you'd be interested then please drop me an IM in world or a flickr mail or something. Thanks.

Wolf Hartnell

Places to meet... anonymous April 6 2008, 03:30:50 UTC

Why in the (second)world hasn't someone come up with a conversational salon, open 24/7, with decently paid conversation guides, and paid security - the former to gently make things flow, and the second for obvious reasons? This is just a huge mystery to me. I can't try it myself, lacking the resources, but I would absolutely make it a point to drop in and out at various times and logins during the day...

Re: Places to meet... kateamdahl April 6 2008, 03:40:55 UTC

Well, there is the Open Latte Cafe, and I think perhaps some other attempts, perhaps not as successful as that. As far as places to connect with people romantically, though, the Open Latte has always struck me as not designed for that kind of thing. And to tell the truth, our Diversionarium was probably not the best place for it either. I think one thing about couples dancing in Second Life is that it provides a socially acceptable way for people to start communicating privately. In a lot of situations, just IMing someone you don't know, out of the blue, can be a little rude unless they spell out in their profile that they like that kind of thing ( ... )

anonymous January 23 2010, 13:59:38 UTC

Personally, I love the idea of some new ways of meeting people! My avie is, well I think she's gorgeous lol, but I'm not one of those "out there" people, the type who seem to love going to clubs and gesturbating! So quite often I find I am in a bit of a quandary about how to meet people...as you said, sometimes the available options aren't that great.

One of my thoughts would be firstly establishing a group, and publicizing it, so that people know about it. Group chat is often a great way to get to know people, even if its just general conversation. As part of the group, I'd probably look at setting up a website of sorts, where people can have their profile on there with the "dating" preferences you mentioned.
Either that or somebody could come up with some kind of HUD system, or group tags etc.
Then you could advertise the singles mingles events in the group, to ensure a decent crowd.