Oh, I've seen that one before...it constantly amazes me how many guys mistake "passive-aggressive asshole" for "nice guy," and then whine about how nice guys finish last. At times it makes me ashamed of my gender. D:
While, ironically, the genuinely nice guys actually are winding up with fairly nice girls because they're sweet and kind and genuine and actually see women as PEOPLE rather than walking vaginas with our own mystical codes and passwords.
Or, no, I'm guessing I don't count because I'm not supermodel-pretty which is also what this kind of guy seems to be seeking above all else. Of course, neither are a lot of the other lovely women who wind up with genuinely nice guys.
But, hey, shitty dating history aside, I'm not obtuse enough to think that this guy speaks for all guys and you're clearly above his ilk, right? So, no being ashamed of the gender. Just pity this guy and how he's rather deservedly alone, or, alternately, point and laugh!
You know, I was almost okay with the whining rant until I got to this sentence...
You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy.
There are just so many things wrong with that one single sentence that he blows his whole basis out of the water. With that one sentence alone he shows that he really isn't a "nice guy" and totally destroys the rest of his argument. Asshole.
Urgh, the Nice Guy Syndrome. I hate the Nice Guy Syndrome. I've been friends with guys like that (thankfully it never transformed into anything beyond that!) and it's always just skeezy and slimy to deal with. I'm cool with friendship turning into something else, but an unspoken expectation that I will put out just because we're friends? Fuck that shit.
If he wants sex for his services, obviously he needs to find himself a prostitute or become one himself - and to keep far, far away from everyone else. Obviously his grip on human relationships isn't adept enough to move beyond that.
Of course, weirdly enough, the scenario he's describing here with the making friends with the hot chick who's supposed to fall for his inner niceness but doesn't so that she can keep dating "assholes" seems to be more ripped out of any number of fairly dreary romantic comedies than something people actually do in real life.
Which is sad. Ya really wanna live your life based on Drew Barrymore movies and Friends reruns?
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Or, no, I'm guessing I don't count because I'm not supermodel-pretty which is also what this kind of guy seems to be seeking above all else. Of course, neither are a lot of the other lovely women who wind up with genuinely nice guys.
But, hey, shitty dating history aside, I'm not obtuse enough to think that this guy speaks for all guys and you're clearly above his ilk, right? So, no being ashamed of the gender. Just pity this guy and how he's rather deservedly alone, or, alternately, point and laugh!
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You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy.
There are just so many things wrong with that one single sentence that he blows his whole basis out of the water. With that one sentence alone he shows that he really isn't a "nice guy" and totally destroys the rest of his argument. Asshole.
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If he wants sex for his services, obviously he needs to find himself a prostitute or become one himself - and to keep far, far away from everyone else. Obviously his grip on human relationships isn't adept enough to move beyond that.
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Which is sad. Ya really wanna live your life based on Drew Barrymore movies and Friends reruns?
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