well duh

[karate0kat]

Last night I was really bothered by the drama happening with the girl with anxiety in our group.  And I don't just mean how it was handled.  Something else was bugging me and I couldn't put my finger on it.  I was tired, I was cranky, and my brain just wasn't working.  I woke up this morning and it was like a lightbulb went on

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[the_jackalope]

Yea, it's not a good idea to tell someone who is freaking out that the thing she's freaking out over is not such a big thing. It trivializes their issues.

I really, really wish more people understood that.

[frolicndetour]

You don't try to use logic, not right then, because there are chemical things happening in the brain that makes it almost impossible for them to be logical. You have to break the cycle, get their minds on anything else, and then keep them focused on that something else long enough for their brain chemistry to regulate again.

Yeah. Although at least in my own experience, that can ultimately backfire because it leads to major avoidance which is that coping mechanism's evil twin. It's hard to know where to draw the line with yourself. I've actually found that making lists of possible outcomes can help, because if nothing else I can amuse myself with the horrible scenarios my brain is unconsciously formulating. ;)