Coffee, crying, help from friends/family if any are brave enough. More crying. Some bickering. Lots of venting. More crying. Anger. Melaise. But there are moments when all of that is worth it. Those firsts are big ones. From my experience, you can't do anything from work other than take her phone calls, be pretty bullet proof to her frustration, oaths, threats, and more crying. But it helps to get home, and take over. I tag my wife out the minute I cross the threshold. Sure I deal with schmucks at work all day, but a baby is a whole other kind of schmuck. I get home and cook dinner, I mop the floor, change the baby, run a couple loads of clothes. It's a different time from the generation before. I don't need a pot roast hot and ready waiting for me at the table. I'm a dad. It's my job to work at home too. And if she wants to black out on the couch watching TMZ, I can't say boo, because being a stay at home mom is the hardest job anyone can ever have. My wife has been doing it for nearly 12 years now, three kids, and I
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As a career stay-at-home mother, I can tell you this without qualm--the job is 24/7/365. Vacation? What vacation? Unless you're going without the child/ren, it's overtime. Holidays? Same thing. There is no break until the last little rugrat is in school at least part time.
The Army's got nothing on stay-at-home parenting: It's the toughest job you'll ever love.
It gets easier. You get used to it. One bit of advice I will give--retain your identity. Let your child/ren SEE that identity, and that you make time for it. If they know you are a person and not simply an extension of themselves, the necessary separations in life are a little easier for all concerned, from bedtime to school to college to flying free.
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The Army's got nothing on stay-at-home parenting: It's the toughest job you'll ever love.
It gets easier. You get used to it. One bit of advice I will give--retain your identity. Let your child/ren SEE that identity, and that you make time for it. If they know you are a person and not simply an extension of themselves, the necessary separations in life are a little easier for all concerned, from bedtime to school to college to flying free.
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