First thing: If you don't want to hang out with him, just tell him you have a lot going on this semester and don't have the time. If he really does just want to chat about mutual interests, no big deal, then he won't make it a big deal.
Now, for the fine-toothed comb: I'm seeing a subtext in your post that you worry about him turning it into a big deal. I didn't spot any red flags in your description of his behavior, but I don't think you would be asking for other people's thoughts or framing it as a "situation" that you need to "know how to handle" if you hadn't picked up on something at least subconsciously. Can you think of any particular behavior of his that strikes you as off somehow? Is he asking you to hang out with him alone? Your next-to-last line makes me suspect that he reminds you of someone else who put you in an uncomfortable situation before.
Well, it was very out of the blue so my being caught off guard makes me uneasy.
He hasn't specified us being alone together, but I get the feeling that it's what he means. And honestly I don't wanna be alone with guys unless I know I can trust them.
It could just be that my insecurities are acting up and it wouldn't be a big deal to tell him I'm not interested in forming any kind of relationship with him! I dunno. I think I'll talk to our friend in common on Friday. She may know more about his intention than I do. Or maybe she won't.
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Now, for the fine-toothed comb: I'm seeing a subtext in your post that you worry about him turning it into a big deal. I didn't spot any red flags in your description of his behavior, but I don't think you would be asking for other people's thoughts or framing it as a "situation" that you need to "know how to handle" if you hadn't picked up on something at least subconsciously. Can you think of any particular behavior of his that strikes you as off somehow? Is he asking you to hang out with him alone? Your next-to-last line makes me suspect that he reminds you of someone else who put you in an uncomfortable situation before.
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He hasn't specified us being alone together, but I get the feeling that it's what he means. And honestly I don't wanna be alone with guys unless I know I can trust them.
It could just be that my insecurities are acting up and it wouldn't be a big deal to tell him I'm not interested in forming any kind of relationship with him! I dunno. I think I'll talk to our friend in common on Friday. She may know more about his intention than I do. Or maybe she won't.
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