It Takes Time

[kajel]

We live in a cul-de-sac in our neighborhood. After a house fire in 2008, we started getting to know our neighbors better. By the end of 2011, my husband and I had become really good friends with the couple directly across the street from us. Last summer, they didn't have air conditioning and they spent four to five evenings a week in our home

Comments

[dabhug]

I'm so sorry you've gone through this. Hugs to you.

[kajel]

Yeah, after 8 months of roller coaster emotions, I feel like I can finally not care and let it go.

[sweeny_todd]

ugh. although I have not had the same experience, but I have so had experiences where " I haven't been able to step out of my home without obsessing over her and what happened."

I am glad that you are on the other side of it now *hugs*

[kajel]

Me too. Out of sight, out of mind, may have made the process easier, but I didn't have that option.

[alycewilson]

I like the additions you made to this. Thanks for being such a great partner!

[kajel]

Thanks! I enjoyed doing this with you.

[tatdatcm]

So sorry you had to experience this. You were only doing what was natural and expected of you. It's sad and frightening that she held so much power over you as the actual victim. Glad to see you've reached that "new day" and are starting to move forward.

This was a great companion piece to alycewilson's.

[kajel]

Thank you! That 'new day' is still a struggle occasionally, but I really do feel I have reached a turning point.

[deza]

Damn. And I thought my crazy neighbor was bad!

[kajel]

lol I glossed over a lot of the crazy. There might have been reconciliation if not actual forgiveness, had we not pressed charges. Now, I am ruining 'her' life by making her take responsibility for her actions.