Dept. of Home Making

[kaffy_r]

So Long and Don't Forget the Cowhorns, Take Two

So. FB's moving out tomorrow. Again. And I'm amazed at just how mixed my feelings are about it.

Comments

[gerisullivan]

I wish both your beloved FB and you luck and a smooth transition with this move, and admire the heck out of him for choosing to live on his own at this time.

And, goshwow, a very happy birthday to him! What a great birthday present for all of you!

Hmmm....I turned 28 the summer I lived by myself for the first time in my life. Before that it was birth family, college dorm, and marriage. And now, I'm 30 years beyond that. There have been several periods short and long of living with others during these past 30 years, and now my longest stretch -- 11 years -- on my own.

It's far from any life I expected or anticipated, but it's the life I've made, and there's plenty to be satisfied with and joyous about even as I strive to live with my own shortcomings. My birthday wish for your FB is that he find himself believing the same another 30 years down his road.

Hugs, dear.

[kaffy_r]

Thank you, my dear; it's oh, so good to know someone else went through the same sort of timeline. It makes me feel a good deal better.

Life does take its twists, turns, and foxtrots, doesn't it? I'm just glad that your life developed in such a way as to leave you satisfied and joyous - and part of mine. Heh.

And now ... it's Moving Day!

[heatherbelles]

I'm sure he'll be fine. I was in student accommodation and a house-shared all through Uni, and then moved back in with my parents after, so I was about the same age as FB the first time I lived on my own properly, when I went up to work in Edinburgh. I had much the same reasoning for not wanting to flat-share (as well as a few bad memories from uni-days and a couple of the flatmates then

[kaffy_r]

As I said to , it's so very good to know that FB isn't unique in his timing; hearing from you makes me feel a little bit better.

Living on my own has been great for all of us - much less arguments and stress and territory marking, and much more enjoying each others company when we're together, and enjoying the space when we're not!

And oh, boy howdy, does this resonate with me!

[lost_spook]

Aw, well, good luck to you all, anyway.

[kaffy_r]

Thanks. We've just gotten through the major move, thanks to a good friend of his - so much better than when we had to move his things three months ago from his old place - and now it's a matter of reclaiming our place and wishing him the best. I'll probably go over there a couple of times over the next couple of weeks to help him figure out where to put things, but the big push is over.

[a_phoenixdragon]

I wish him all that and more...and I'm sending massive hugs your way, dear one.

*hugs you close*

[kaffy_r]

Thank you, my dear. I am thinking of you, and sending TARDIS songs of peace and hearts-ease and grace to you and yours.

[a_phoenixdragon]

Bless you, dear one.

*Snuggles close*

[kaffy_r]

*hands you glass of internet wine*

[maruad]

When I was 18 I quit school, got a job, worked until the snow started to fall, then booked a flight to Europe. I traveled with strangers, I had met along the way, through Europe and North Africa for over 3 months. I was running out of money so I came home. Two days after that I went out for coffee with a friend and ended up in Vancouver (with $5 between us and the clothes on our backs). I lived there for 9 months before coming home to continue my education (a longer and much more boring tale).

Although things in the world are tougher economically now, your son is probably much better equipped to deal with life at his age than I was at my age. He will be fine (as you intellectually know even if it is difficult emotionally),

[kaffy_r]

your son is probably much better equipped to deal with life at his age than I was at my age.

I'm not so sure; you sound as if you were able to handle the unknown thrown at you with a great deal more aplomb than either FB - or I, for that matter - could deal with. But perhaps I should be as confident of his abilities as you are. Thanks for reminding me!

[maruad]

All I knew was to keep my head down and my mouth shut when I didn't know what was going on. It came from growing up in North End Winnipeg. Unless you could back it up, you kept quiet.

[kaffy_r]

As I said, you handled things with aplomb. The "head down/mouth shut" approach to certain things in life is wiser than the attitudes held by far too many people in this life. Including yours truly. Heh.