Comments | k8land: Transition to unrequested Stay at Home Momness

k8land

Transition to unrequested Stay at Home Momness

Jan 11, 2014 13:17

Disclaimer: this is not anti-SAHM in any way. I know a woman--childless not really by choice--who wrote a long blog post about why women shouldn't leave the workforce. It's one of my favorite things--because moms telling other moms what to do and shaming them just wasn't enough, let's call in those who have no children and who imagine (as if...I'm ( Read more... )

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moonshineray January 11 2014, 20:43:44 UTC

The SAHM thing is hard. Heck, working is hard. Working from home, I don't know how anyone does it with kids. Honestly, I stand in awe of that ability.
No matter what, never enough hours in the day.
Gah, car trouble never happens when it is at all easy to fix or something you can afford. Like our Christmas day debacle.

Seems like everywhere I look there's less work and the work there is pays less than it did 10 years ago.

k8land January 14 2014, 17:04:21 UTC

Working at home with kid(s) just isn't possible. Anyone who claims to do it is full of it, or providing Benadryl as a snack. When I worked for a publisher, you were allowed to work from home IF you had childcare for children in the home. You couldn't do both. At the time (pre-kids) I thought that was obnoxious, that a big benefit for working from home was child care savings. Now I know that was just reality. You can't do both. Trying to is an unfair challenge for a human. Working from home you get to skip the commute, my boobs are available for nursing so no pumping. But to really work, that's about it. And there's the big disadvantage of most kids knowing you are there but not accessible, which causes THEM stress. Ug ( ... )

moonshineray January 14 2014, 18:27:02 UTC

I agree completely. The disparity is astounding, the lack of concern for fellow human beings, that f*&$ you I got mine attitude everyone thinks is so positive but it hurts everyone but the richest... ugh.
Methods might need work, but the 99% movement has the right idea on my mind.

sirenphotos January 12 2014, 02:11:08 UTC

When it rains, it pours sometimes.

I would not be happy with becoming a SAHM without it being 100% my choice. I love my kids, LOVE them, but I would not make a great SAHM. You'll get through this one way or another. There are definitely bonuses to being around your kids all.the.time.

rafferbee January 13 2014, 05:25:49 UTC

I'm sorry your work dried up. That sucks. I love all your acronyms. I feel like SAHM is the best of a bad lot. I can't just call myself a full-time mother, because women who work outside the home are still full-time parents too. And I am a homefaker, so I can't claim I'm keeping the house clean and tidy.