Comments | jzlyn: Missing bit

jzlyn

Missing bit

Oct 13, 2011 09:59

I think God must have been momentarily distracted when he created me; he accidentally left out the maternal instinct bit.

8 months into motherhood, 85% of the time I'm relying on experiential knowledge rather than the oh-so-talked-about maternal instinct. I just don't have that.

I mentioned last year when I was pregnant I never knew and couldn't tell ( Read more... )

via ljapp, motherhood

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anonymous October 13 2011, 02:23:24 UTC

I can relate to that. I have 2 kids and still no maternal instinct. I do love them but I'm doing a good job mainly coz I'm a highly responsible person. You are not alone. Love this honest confession. Cool post!

dreamlaughlive October 13 2011, 04:05:05 UTC

I often wonder about my maternal instinct too! While I love kids, I am often lost as to how to care of my own son. When my boy cries, I m more often than not frustrated and flustered, instead of having that instinct of just knowing what he wants. So, it just doesn't come that naturally eh :p

jzlyn October 14 2011, 07:46:10 UTC

Maternal instincts aren't all that instinctive afterall...

yflyn October 13 2011, 07:14:13 UTC

You're not the only one for sure - your thoughts are very similar to mine. I must say though, that I am enjoying The Bun a lot more now that he is communicative and more independent. Yes there are disagreements (i.e. tantrums) but we relate to each other better now.

It is possible to not feel maternal at all and yet have children gravitate to you. I generally do not like other children (sometimes not even those of friends) but for some reason they always come to me and sit down uninvited on my lap for ages and ages. I don't know what vibe I give out; it has been this way even when I was an angsty teenager!

jzlyn October 14 2011, 07:45:08 UTC

Oh dear I am not sure if that is a good and bad thing being a kid magnet... I have a say I am a teen magnet myself - I always have teenagers wanting to stick to me, does that mean I am cool? Hahaha!

Re the bun growing up, you two seem to be having a lot of fun. I will keep that in mind when C is being tryinG!

claragaby October 14 2011, 03:05:01 UTC

Much as I love my little kid, I don't always know what he needs, esp when he cries at night - same like you, I do the trial and elimination even at 20 mos
(though a bottle of milk at the end never fails to calm him down ;)

And there are definitely some days where it's tougher to be a mom...didn't think that makes for lesser maternal instinct though.

How's your new job by the way? :D

jzlyn October 14 2011, 07:47:08 UTC

Haven't started due to some visa issue. I didn't actually move onto the husband's dependent's visa so we are waiting for processing.

inex December 21 2011, 08:20:32 UTC

Came to your blog via Lumo's.

I can relate to this post - nice to know I'm not alone! Sometimes I feel more like "The woman who gave birth to this boy" then "Mother of this boy"

Then again i don't think being a good mother means you have to be good with kids or instinctively know what they need. Just doing your best for them and being there for them when they need you matters more, don't you think?