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[justsomechick]

I'm still not ready to talk about my parents' divorce yet. The fact that I haven't mentioned it in my journal since Mom told me it was happening back in March is proof enough of that, I guess.

But I would like to vent that dealing with my parents' shit is not making my move to Atlanta or start of law school any easier. I have my own shit to deal

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[filthy_animal]

I'm sorry to hear about the divorce. :C That's never fun for anybody. It does eventually pass, hopefully. I still hear about it now and then from my own parents after about 10 years, but it has gotten much better since they've had the time to reconstruct their lives. As with any relationship, they will need to to heal, and also to re-build their lives-- both will take time. Remember that while it IS obnoxious to deal with, they do need some positive support from you. <3 Try to remember the positives and it will help you deal with this much better. I would know. @__@;

And the good news? The drive is just one day. After that you will be free-er, and back to your regularly scheduled life. <3

[justsomechick]

i guess. ;~; my regularly scheduled life isn't a very calming thought either though, lol. law school.

maybe i'd have more patience for my dad if he wasn't such an oblivious douchebag. have you ever been in a store, or in a restaurant, and seen some red-faced self-important guy arguing with an employee over something that really isn't a big deal? that's him.

[filthy_animal]

I'm sure, but your current life is the priority, nonetheless! Nothing good in life isn't worth working for. :3

I know exactly what you mean, too. My dad used to be exactly like that, but lately he's mellowed out a ton and doesn't do that any more, thankfully! I totally understand what you mean about that built-up anxiety just by the thought of seeing them and everything, worrying when the next explosion will be, hoping the day you see them is the day they're in a better mood, etc.

I get along with him really well, now. Hopefully your dad will soon realize how short life is, and how little it's worth arguing with others over little things. Maybe he'll be able to learn to be happier, then.

[justsomechick]

Yeah, exactly. I mean, I am thankful that he's helping me move? (Although I could do it myself if I had my own car.) The thing that annoys me especially is that he didn't take time off of work on Monday. He's self-employed, there's really no excuse, and instead he's rushing around and making things more stressful and pressed than necessary. If you're gonna help me Dad, help me, but don't half-ass it, don't basically drop me off at the curb.

[deadpuppy5]

Well, I'm glad they got around to telling you at least. Last I heard, my mom thought you still didn't know.

I'm really sorry that you have t go through this. I have trouble stomaching my mom's "I miss $name_of_your_mom!!!" and complaining about your dad's new girl because she's not your mom (which really, is not the new girl's fault), and "$name_of_your_mom doesn't know about my breast surgery. I bet she'd care, if she would just talk to me. But, she won't". And on and on from October to mid summer. Maybe my sister's already complained to you. I'll stop. Anyhow.

My mom is finally getting better (it only flares up when we visit your dad). I imagine it will take your dad a much longer time.

I've got no idea how to make the drive better. Good luck. Its finite in duration. You can always rant here, or tell your dad how you're feeling. Or call any of us and rant to us. Try not to stress out too much before term starts.

[justsomechick]

Yeah, I feel bad for your mom. I don't have any explanation for why my mom isn't talking to her. It isn't because she's mad at her or something. I think she just had to get out of Naples and remove herself completely from this terrible situation she'd been in for 20 years. Both her and my dad are going through a phase right now. Mom's just being weird about it in a different way than my dad. A less psycho way, but still weird.

I've been feeling a little better since this entry, he flipped out less than I thought he would when I told him about the 1:45 thing. Besides being stressed about school, now I'm just sad about leaving Gainesville and my boyfriend and moving on to some new place. :( I'm sentimental to a fault I guess.

[deadpuppy5]

I'm really glad that you're feeling a little better. I hope the drive went well. You'll hopefully have fun in your new place, and meet new people, and such. And, get a little more distance between you and other people

[justsomechick]

Losing both in court? My mom wouldn't do that. She's letting him have both as far as I know. It's my dad who would try to do something like that. Man...... I could tell you some of the shit my mom threatening her with in the divorce, but it probably isn't appropriate to write it here.

but hey! I am replying to this in Atlanta! woo!