[Make-Your-Own Meme] Fitness and salads OR what health means OR the very dramatic story of my life

[justira]

Hey it's a post from that ridiculous/amazing/this is the worst idea/this is the best idea Make-Your-Own Meme "blog every day of November" thing! Original post/list of topics. Feel free to add more: LJ | DW - anon and openID welcome!

thebaconfat: you've mentioned before trying to get fit and/or eating salads; is that something you still struggle with? ( here

Comments

[shuraiya]

Wow, good for you for being able to open up about all of this! Keep working hard, you're amazing. ♥

[justira]

YOUR ICON IS TOO ADORABLE ohgod

Thank you for reading! I actually really don't mind talking about any of this, I am just SO LAZY. But now I have an excuse and a semi-captive audience! =D

I was starting to think I had like scared you off! With my All About Pot :(

[shuraiya]

I KNOW I LOVE IT SO MUCH ♥♥♥

You're welcome! I like to hear more about my friends.

Noooooo!! I keep meaning to reply, but it's gonna take me a lot of time and consideration to come up with a coherent entry and all I can manage lately (what with my crazy stupid busy school/work life) are little comments like this. BUT I WILL RESPOND TO THAT.

[justira]

OKAY as long as I had not like mortally offended you or made you cry or other things that presume I have a TERRIBLY HUGE IMPACT ON YOUR LIFE (I do, right? I SO DO). But I am definitely interested in discussing, whenever you have time/energy/inclination =D

[squeemu]

Thanks for sharing this, it was really interesting to read. I've had weird relationships with food and weight before, too and it -- it helps expand my understanding of it, reading about other people also having problems?

Also, wow, wow, I cannot imagine how hard it would be dealing with your family of super athletes.

ALSO, if you need more topics to talk about in November, or, uh, if you're willing to do it anyway, I'd be really interested to hear more about your gender disassociation.

Thanks again for sharing. I really hope things get better for you as you keep trying to make things work out and you totally have my admiration and support. <3

[justira]

Well! Our culture does not really predispose us towards a healthy relationship with food or bodies or ourselves, and it's something I think should be discussed more and more openly - though, of course, that same culture discourages that very thing. OH GOOD. And I know it's very hard for many people to talk about, but I have always been pretty much OVERSHARE CITY once you get me going - I'm okay discussing almost anything along these lines, I just don't often have the energy, for possibly obvious reasons! So if I *can* talk about it, I feel like I should at least try, and maybe it will make it easier for other people, or at least get some thinkings going, or just... even put it on the table as Something That Is Okay To Talk About, Swears. something

[squeemu]

And of course when culture does discuss, it's sort of in the same tone it discusses serial killers -- it is, of course, a terrible thing but it is also glamorous and spoken of in tones of almost-admiration. D:

I think it is pretty awesome to be able to be a resident in OVERSHARE CITY. I always sort of wish I was more comfortable talking about myself? But usually it's like, blah blah OH WAIT I HAVE SAID MORE THAN TWO SENTENCES I MUST BE BORING YOU. It doesn't make for very good conversations.

My own endeavours are doing alright! Except for the way that I am now struggling to eat less because when I'm stressed I tend to just stuff food in my mouth, and haha, I am so stressed right now. (I dabbled in anorexia and, uh, addiction to exercise for awhile in high school? And at my lightest I was 130 pounds, I think. Which I don't think is even considered underweight for my height, but whatever. I have a hard time finding a happy medium.)

I am very interested in gender! I actually got the chance to talk to Scott Turner Schofield last night

[justira]

OH WAIT I HAVE SAID MORE THAN TWO SENTENCES I MUST BE BORING YOU

This is actually a BIG PART of why I do not really talk about myself at any length on my journal? And why I included "once you get me going" in the OVERSHARE CITY thing! I tend to assume that people are not interested in hearing All About Me and that I am boring, so I am generally very leery of just VOLUNTEERING myself/things about me as the topic of conversation. (Also why I totally fail at twitter. But if the twitter topic is not ME then I am super happy! I'm the most prolific of the ff_press editors in our twitter account because I get to talk about WHY THINGS ARE AWESOME

[thebaconfat]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm always excited when you post, because you're so articulate and thought-provoking and you always get me looking at one thing or another in a new light, and I'm really glad my suggestion gave you the chance to share!

I think it's really interesting that the background you're coming from, of intense daily exercise and competitive sports and winning, is something that (for me, at least) always seemed like it would be a really healthy way to be brought up. I've often wished that my parents tried to get me involved in some kind of physical activity when I was young enough not be insanely self-conscious about my body. But your post made me realize that even taking health and fitness to extremes can be really, really unhealthy.

I'm so, so sorry about your injuries. It must be really hard for you. I struggle with depression myself, and on good days I can recognize that light exercise helps, but it's really hard to make a person who hasn't struggled with that understand how when you're depressed,

[justira]

Thank you for the topic! As I've said in other comments, I do think this sort of thing should be discussed more and more openly, so I was very happy to have the excuse to get off my butt and do it.

As for being brought up in a sports-oriented family, well, haha, anything can get pretty ugly taken to extremes. My sisters are faring better than I did, I think; I still believe that there's too much pressure on them to win instead of to take joy in their bodies, but they're definitely getting a lower dosage than I did, and I consider that a good thing. Although I think in a lot of ways physicality is educated out of us. Have you seen Sir Ken Robinson's excellent TED lecture on how schools kill creativity? It's not directly related to the topic at hand, but I think it touches on this thought I'm having where, especially as you get older, physical education - or '"physical" "education"', so sarcastic it deserves nested scare quotes - becomes more and more of a painful, competitive, shaming duty rather than a healthy outlet for physical

[darcenciel]

I am not sure why we weren't friends on LJ but I just friended you. XD Sorry for the really really late comment, but I just had to say something.

I...a lot of this post describes my life. I wasn't a super athlete, but I had a really awesomely crappy relationship with food, a terrible body image, and Really Bad Depression. It's taken me 30 years to dig myself out of the hole with the help of friends and my husband. I think the best thing you said in this post was that you couldn't have done most of this (or at least, stayed fed) without your partner. For the longest time I tried to do it all myself. I thought if I couldn't "fix" myself then I was a failure and didn't deserve to live. Now I realize it's not as much about fixing as it is about accepting, and having people around you that accept you too.

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