I am a flirt. Most of you know this. What can I say; I enjoy attention. This sometimes leads to people trying to gauge the possibility of actually becoming involved with me in whatever way (romantic, physical, etc.), and in many of these cases, leads to a comment structured as so: "Well, I could [say more|be more forward|make a move|prove it],
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The context suggests this conversation occurred outside the presence and\or awareness of your SO, and therefore it may be a moot point, but if I knew a certain thing bothered your SO anywhere he saw it, I would refrain from doing that thing with you, because your SO might object and that could damage my relationship with him.
Of course, I've never met Dan, and I generally try to be as inoffensive as possible (with some gigantic caveats, I admit) so what I am thinking is, I am sure, not even remotely what you're thinking, but hey, there's the loophole in your argument.
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Edit made.
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Also, in a lot of cases, guys saying that generally are saying "While I would like to have sex with you, I don't think the pleasure in that would outweigh the pain of the resulting fistfight."
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My second point: I've been on the receiving end of more than a few "...but your girlfriend might mind" comments. This isn't gender-exclusive (or sexuality exclusive: I've had gay friends get propositioned with this same kind of line).
My third point: For most people in monogamous relationships, I think the implication is less about possession and more about the massive emotional damage.
The basic implication of that line in THAT context is "I want you to cheat with me, and I'm just sounding out whether you give a shit about how that might hurt your SO's feelings." It's worth remembering cheating is profoundly emotionally hurtful. It usually covers up some major issue that the person cheating just can't bring up to their SO, and that's usually the part that hurts the most for most people. And it hurts a lot. I've never been cheated on, but I've seen the fallout and...yeah ( ... )
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I make no claim that it's men only. Men are the only ones who've done it to me, but women can totally be as sketchy.
As to point three, my experience with the use of the line is outside of this context. My experience with it is that the person is completely bypassing the topic of my interest in cheating on my SO; it doesn't matter to them, because I am not going to do what my SO doesn't allow me to do. Anyone who has ever been actually actively seeking my opinion and point of view has used different terminology.
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I think that means you have to make an edit. :P
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