i have to get this out

[jrianne]

i am crushed right now. just destroyed

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[groovy_violet]

Im so sorry. It sux when people get in the middle liek that :(

[jrianne]

i think it just hit hard because it was someone i had considered a friend of mine, not just his, but she was blindly accepting of his lies.
anyway, thank you.

[26376]

The only thing I can say, on both of your posts, is to remind you that there are people who love you and care about you, who respect you for whatever your decisions are and how you run your life. We love you when you are around, and we miss you when you're away.

[jrianne]

Thanks, sweetheart. It's good to hear that, all of it. :)

[diyeana]

Oh Ruth, I'm so sorry. That's a terrible thing to hear. But you aren't in the wrong, you know? You are wonderful! And a wonderful mother. And I know you want Josh to be able to see the kids, but just can't until he stops being so stupid and lazy about the whole thing.

And I also know she just doesn't understand the truth of the situation. Josh has already hurt you so much, you should try not to let him hurt you anymore. (MUCH harder to do, that's for sure!) Tell your friend the truth and ignore the jabs that Josh tries to give you. He knows the truth too, but is trying to make him seem like the good guy, which he's not. He wasn't worth staying in a marriage for and he's not worth getting upset over. *hugs* But as I said before, I know it's not easy to do. Just remember you have people who love you. *hugs*

[jrianne]

Thanks, so much. I know I am not in the wrong, but it still hurts to stabbed in the back, as it were, by someone who I would have thought would have known better.
As for the not letting him hurt me, yeah, if it was just him yelling at me, that I can deal with. I have and I know how to deal with him, one on one. It's this bit where he has yelled so loud from the rooftops how horrible I am that people have begun to believe it because it's all they know. No one has been willing to ask or let me explain anything since before the divorce was final.
Thanks for the reminder that he isn't worth getting upset over: I just have to figure out how to deal with all this coming from "friends" now, too.

[ajatagge]

Hey sweetie.... Take it from somebody who is the queen of bitches. It'll get easier, and people will come around, and realize the situation for what it is. She's just ignorant to the WHOLE situation, and it's not up to you to make her listen or change her mind. And beleive me it's not worth it

[jrianne]

I can't imagine not having my families support through all this. You are stronger than I.
I try not to bad-mouth my ex in front of my kids. It's a hard thing some days, but I still try. I don't know if I could have done what you did, though.
I believe you that it's worth it in the end. I just thought I was nearer to the end than I apparently am. *shrug*

Thanks for the words and thoughts and love from both. I send my love back.

[thufer_hawat]

Hey sweetie.... Take it from somebody who is the queen of bitches. It'll get easier, and people will come around, and realize the situation for what it is. She's just ignorant to the WHOLE situation, and it's not up to you to make her listen or change her mind. And beleive me it's not worth it.

When I went through my divorce to Dave everyone thought it was my fault he cheated, and I never corrected anyone. I came out of that situation looking the part of the outrageous bitch.... Just ask Wayne *flashback moment*.... *chuckle*....

ain't that the ruddy Truth

[jrianne]

*insert me asking Wayne* What?

[jennilee_rose]

*hugs* I wish I knew what to say really.

[jrianne]

*hugs back* just having someone there with a hug is good.