The long-awaited explanation post

[joyshine]

So. A week ago, I found out that my father has had access to MY WHOLE LJ (filtered material included) for about four years. Four YEARS, people! Those of you who've been reading any fraction of that time know that my LJ has a goodly quantity of non-parental material (especially non-Conservative Christian Dad material). I don't care if my father

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Well

[cinnimin]

If he keeps up the judging, tell him that you will let it slip that he is a swinger to his wife. Even if you don't have the ammo, the threat is enough to curb that psychotic judgemental bullshit.

I regret that you have to deal with this.

I think that books will cheer you up.

Re: Well

[joyshine]

*hugs* Thanks for your support...yeah, if it gets bad enough, I'll play the infidelity card...but I hesitate to do so because I don't have proof, and I don't want to subject mom to that if I can avoid it.
*grins* books are always cheering. Always.
Oh! You know the subject of the books you gave me? I think I've found someone with whom I can explore that and see what I think of it...

And much much love and support. I'm sorry you're still aching...if you ever need/want to talk about your pains, please feel free. I tend not to ask because I don't want to needlessly bring up the ache...but I'm always happy to listen and help as I can! *hugs*

*hugs*

[tn_tiger]

Oh, Joy--I'm so sorry!

This reminds me of something that happened to me and Alex a few years ago. His mom found out about Silver Scroll because his sister stayed logged in. Her attitude was kind of like, "Everyone knows that I don't have any secrets from mom, so you if you don't want her to know something, don't post about it. At all."

Yeah, I know.

I had to unfriend her because of this; not because I was angry, but just to protect our privacy.

Re: *hugs*

[joyshine]

Yeesh. It's so difficult when people don't understand that your Boundaries are yours, and they should be respected. *sigh* I do really wish sometimes that I could be completely open...but I can't be, not yet, waiting still is with Mom, and until she knows, I can't be truly open.
*hugs* Thanks for your love and support!

[liquidwoman]

Is there any possibility that he is lying about it to cover his infidelity tracks? Have you tested his knowledge?

LQW

[joyshine]

I don't think he's lying about the LJ knowledge. He knew about Mike (the guy from OKC) - which there's no WAY he should've known about him if he hadn't been reading my journal. And, as I said, for years he's dropped hints about things he shouldn't know. It just makes sense that he was getting info from somewhere. Although, I am going to test the logged-in theory when I go home today.
And it's very hard (as his OKC account is now deleted) to get him on the infidelity thing...nothing to refer to for proof.
*hugs*

[poetheather]

I am sorry your father has been acting like an idiot and has been invading your privacy. The events of your life, no matter how trivial, are yours to cherish and share as you want, not as someone else wants. I am sorry that your father didn't respect you enough to honor that.

::HUGS::