Having been bullied (albeit only for a short period of time during my GCSEs) I can but wholeheartedly agree with you! I don't think teachers/schools are proactive enough in dealing with the problem, and it's compunded by the victims' reluctance to 'make a big deal' out of it, for the fear of repercussion. I don't know what the best solution would be but it's without doubt a problem not to be ignored!
I don't know what the best solution would be but it's without doubt a problem not to be ignored!
Punish the parents along with the kids. Hit them in the only place where it hurts, and that's the wallet. I have to deal with bullies and their parents a lot (and also with the victims of bullying), and trust me, 9 out of 10 parents will tell you that it's aaaaaall the victim's fault, or the school's, or the society's, but never, ever theirs or their kids. Hell, one of our lads realised that he's been a right twit and apologised to the other kid, and his mother told him off for being "such a drip". Argh!
I wish I could say I would rearrange their bones into an interesting shape. My son just had a 3 demerit from the new principal out of trying to diplomatically talk to the bully. The bully that kept touching my son's girlfriend on the arms and the butt. Being a girl and was too scared to fight back the bully, she approached my son...
And to tell you the truth, I was not impressed with how the principal handled the situation, despite having witnesses to what happened!
Re: Ohmigod!!joyful_mollyOctober 4 2011, 17:34:20 UTC
The bully that kept touching my son's girlfriend on the arms and the butt.
Hel-lo there, sexual harassment! What does the bully learn here? He can get away with it; I pity any woman who'll cross his path in the future! I'm very sorry that your son's girlfriend had to endure this, and good on your son for being so level headed. On what planet is such behaviour acceptable? This needs intervention, from day one, or it escalates. One should think that would be obvious. >:(
Your last paragraph made me smile more viciously than I should probably admit. I didn't get bullied a lot... but the one time a kid was giving me trouble, my dad, without being asked, pulled up in his beat-up grey bronco next to the kid as he was walking away from school (this was before Dad picked me up), rolled down his window and said, "Hey, {bully's name}, I'm Corri's dad. And I teach at that middle school right down the street. I'm friends with your principal, and I'm on a first name basis with most of the teachers at your school. You will leave my daughter alone from now on, or you, me, and your parents will be sitting down together in the principal's office, and you will not be at this school any more. Got it
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Three cheers for you dad! And the pox on anybody who feels that this was not appropriate or didn't take the poor bully's feelings in account. It's the job of parents to keep their children safe and happy, and if there's no other solution, very well, scary dad it is. >:)
(My dad once offered two girls who were calling me names a free ride in his business car, hehe! And my brother, who's much older and was in a MCCC, once scared the living daylights out off a boy who always pushed my head under water at the school's pool. The teacher thought it was only fun, but I assure you, it wasn't. That little beast almost drowned me. After being chased down the street by a big black motorcycle and 120kg/1.90m of brother, he never even talked to me again. Sure, questionable from a pedagocics point of view, but my 10 year old self was quite happy with the solution!)
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Punish the parents along with the kids. Hit them in the only place where it hurts, and that's the wallet. I have to deal with bullies and their parents a lot (and also with the victims of bullying), and trust me, 9 out of 10 parents will tell you that it's aaaaaall the victim's fault, or the school's, or the society's, but never, ever theirs or their kids. Hell, one of our lads realised that he's been a right twit and apologised to the other kid, and his mother told him off for being "such a drip". Argh!
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And to tell you the truth, I was not impressed with how the principal handled the situation, despite having witnesses to what happened!
This really rankles me!!:(
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Hel-lo there, sexual harassment! What does the bully learn here? He can get away with it; I pity any woman who'll cross his path in the future! I'm very sorry that your son's girlfriend had to endure this, and good on your son for being so level headed. On what planet is such behaviour acceptable? This needs intervention, from day one, or it escalates. One should think that would be obvious. >:(
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(My dad once offered two girls who were calling me names a free ride in his business car, hehe! And my brother, who's much older and was in a MCCC, once scared the living daylights out off a boy who always pushed my head under water at the school's pool. The teacher thought it was only fun, but I assure you, it wasn't. That little beast almost drowned me. After being chased down the street by a big black motorcycle and 120kg/1.90m of brother, he never even talked to me again. Sure, questionable from a pedagocics point of view, but my 10 year old self was quite happy with the solution!)
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