It's a week ago tomorrow that my grandmother's funeral took place. I don't why that's resonating with me right now. I don't feel grief at the moment, at least not in the traditional sense - I am aware that she's gone, but it isn't making me actively sad. Maybe that's because I haven't let myself actually sit and contemplate the fact yet. Every time
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It's not surprising at all that you feel this way; she was a huge part of your life, all your life. Didn't you live with her at one time?
You say you're not "actively sad" but the stress and grief surely are responsible for the physical manifestations -- the cold sores, the early period, the exhaustion. Just because you're not wringing your hands and crying all day doesn't mean you're not feeling the pain.
I wish I could say something comforting. I know you're so sad right now. *massive hugs*
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I think not really feeling the grief you know is inside you is a way to cope. If the feelings was to rush on you all at once, it would be unbearable, and so the mind waits a little. It'll come, and it will be hard, but I think you may find it a relief too.
I have my one of my grandmother's scarfs too, saved in a little box. Every time I open it her perfume meets me, and it's like she is close.
*hugss and hugs*
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*hugs*
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And you are grieving. Trust in yourself. Really this is how it is. The cotton wool and the searching for them in smells and textures. It made me cry to read that, because the longing is worse than the pain.
*hugs*
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Yes, I've dreamed about her numerous times since she died. And I wake up aching.
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