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[jlormberget]

You guys I feel horrible. I am a very bad, no good, downright terrible mom. I'm not catholic, but is there some kind of a penance I can do to absolve myself. I'm not really into self-flagellation, but right now it seems appropriate.

Backstory: Okay so I've been complaining about Anders sleep of late. The dude's sleep is all out of whack so I felt

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[rverity]

Ok, it's very possible he puked in his sleep. That does happen, you know.

Second, I'm sorry, and you're a great mom. Sucky moms KNOW they're children and sick, and don't go to them.

in fact, Third, When I Was a Sucky Mom, I knew my kid was sick, really really sick, but decided that since he wasn't vomiting or filling diapers with diarhea on the hour, I could send him off to his nanny. Three hours later we were in the ER together, because I was so callous of his illness that I'd not even thought that his lack of vomit and diarhea was ONLY b/c there was nothing left in him to come out, and he was severely (requiring IV fluids) dehydrated.

You didn't know your kid was sick. Now you do, and you'll take exceptionally good care of him. Really.

[jlormberget]

Really, he can puke in his sleep? How is that possible?

Oh Truthie, I remember when that happened. You were not at all to blame. If I recall your friend the Ped hadn't really given you all the information because she was afraid of telling you what to do, right? You didn't know. I guess it's easy for me to look at your situation and say that you weren't a bad mom. I'm having a hard time being equally objective with myself.

[ohbytheway]

Janet - you are an awesome mom. Serious. I don't throw that around loosely - and believe me I have seen sucktastic moms. I'm with Truthie - he might have done it in his sleep

[jlormberget]

It does make me feel better that he might have done this in his sleep. I really didn't think that was possible.

Your first example doesn't count - you were fighting for your life.
Your second example doesn't sound like it was your fault
Your third example is actually an example of you being an excellent mom (not really a great showing of the person who you left in charge, though)
Fourth example is just a sneaky Eli
Fifth example is of David being careless and has nothing to do with you.
Sixth example is of stupid co-workers not bad parenting

but it was a good effort.

[kilaar]

Ohhhhh, this is too bad. (((hugs))) I hope you both feel better soon!

I too, often wonder if P's crying is just to cry or if he's sick. How do you really know?

He loves to play this game where he points his finger at my nose, and I say "that's mommy's nose". I fool myself into thinking that he's actually learning something during these exchanges.

We do this too! :)

[kilaar]

Forgot my bad mom stories but first my puke story - he threw up all over himself on the way to daycare (35 min ride) and I had no idea until I went to get him out. It was a silent puke.

Bad mom story - hmm, nothing too spectacular just the he fell off the couch and hit his head, made him bleed while I was cutting his nails (three times, you'd think I'd learn) stuff. When he was 6 weeks old we wanted a pic of him and a pumpkin so we propped him up naively thinking he'd stay sitting up, yeah he fell and hit his head on the pumpkin and got a big ol' bump on his brand new head. We also drove home with him not strapped in the infant seat because we forgot we took him out and put him back in w/ a blanket on at the football game we were at. Good thing it was just a 2 min drive home.

Oh yeah, I just remembered a good one - when I gave him my old cell phone to play with and he swallowed the "zero" key and we had to search his poop for it for two days.

[marscapone]

Oh Janet.
You're a good Mom.
You've proven what a terrific mom you are because you are concerned and upset about how Anders fared last night.
Willingness to accept responsibility for mistakes that are GOING to happen, and learning from them, is what being a good mother is all about, I think.

And this game is ridiculously easy for me!
How about the time I left the charcoal starter fluid outside with an unattended child, hmmmm?
:D

[marscapone]

Hey-I know what would help!
Change your avatar from distraught Anders to happy-I-love-Mommy Anders!

[jlormberget]

Thanks Sally. I hope you are right. I just think that I shouldn't have valued my sleep over his well-being. It makes me feel horribly selfish, like I should be on call 24/7. I can sleep when he's older, right?

IIRC the starter fluid actually wasn't even harmful - probably not something I'd serve him with cookies, but it didn't make him sick, right?

[poas]

I'm not really into self-flagellation
Surely you jest!

You are fine & loved unconditionally. Believe that.

[jlormberget]

Thanks. I hope/think/sort of know you are right.