My son’s IEP (Individualized Education Program) meeting was last week. This was his second IEP, and I wasn’t able to make it to the meeting. So I came home and read through the paperwork, reviewing the plans and ideas for next year, when he’ll be in first grade.
Overall, his school has been wonderful. They confirmed our gut feeling about his autism
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Guess that means they are neuro-amazing!
When you get right down to it, I suspect none of us are as neuro-typical as everyone else thinks we are. Normal is just a statistic. ;)
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Sometimes it's a good thing. He gets incredibly frustrated by changes in routine, and that's something I can relate to, so I think I have an easier time talking to him about it. I don't know exactly what it's like for him, but I'm able to empathize a bit, if that makes sense?
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I think that in general it's preferable to think of autism as a difference rather than a disability - but it's also important to address any specific issues which are acting like disabilities for the person with autism.
Also, incidentally, I have a friend with Aspergers who NEVER stays totally still. Mostly it just affects him in that he can eat anything he wants without gaining weight because his constant fidgeting burns so many calories! :)
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From what I've read, a number of people on the spectrum also have some other disorder such as retardation (not sure if this is the polite word now, but I don't know a new one), and I think that is part of why the image the public has is of someone so disabled. That and not being able to talk, whether it's a blanket or selective thing.
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It's not a huge problem, except when the cat tries to curl up next to us. And the cat is learning to avoid J's feet. Mostly, to me, it's an example of where the autism is clearly affecting him, but it's not disabling him or preventing him from doing what he wants to do.
Except when he falls off the couch :-)
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What the correct etiquette should be, I don't know.
However, many of us carry all sorts of minor disabilities.
Perhaps the school should have said...
"...progress in the general education curriculum with the rest of his peers/classmates…”
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What I was groping ineptly towards was the feeling that perhaps it's not the terminology itself that is offensive or unfitting, but rather the reduction of people into the binary categories "disabled"/"non-disabled".
A child with autism "has a disability" from an administrative point of view (databases and budgets), but that doesn't make them "disabled", the term is too reductive and too imprecise.
Presumably an autistic child's needs are different from those of the kid in a wheelchair, and different again from those of the blind child. And all three children have needs that are nothing to do with disability.
Of course a disability hinders, but it does not define a person, and it should be the job of schools to know this.
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I don't think it's the binary division that was upsetting to me, though I agree that's a problem. Going off of your comment, "special needs" seems a bit more on-target. My son definitely has some needs that aren't shared by other students. They don't disable him, but they do need to be addressed. (And they definitely make life interesting sometimes...)
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There certainly are folks on the autism scale that I would consider disabled. My niece is one, but she has both autism and down's syndrome. But it's such a broad range, and I know many on the spectrum I would never consider disabled.
The closest I could say when considering one of these issues that involve fairly broad scales is that some people are affected by it, but not disabled by it.
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That makes sense to me. There's such a range, and not everything really qualifies as disabling.
I get that the school needs a way to categorize and track students who need extra accomodations through special education in order to help them get through the school day, and my son does need that right now. But I don't see that as disabled.
I don't know. It gets messy the more I try to think about it in depth. Is "disabled" defined in relation to one's ability to live a "normal" life, and if so, who defines normal? I know there's a lot of discussion and debate about all this, and I'm not in the center of that discussion, so there's a lot I don't know.
All I know is the word feels wrong in this case.
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I guess so long as the school helps your son succeed that is the most important thing. But I understand your frustration, and I don't think it unreasonable.
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