Confess!

[jeremymlad]

I admit. I am terribly intimidated by straight men. This struck me with force the other day in the breakroom at lunch. I was there making a sandwich and another guy who works here in the media department came up and started making a sandwich, too. He said, hey what's up, when he first got up there, and I said good. After that I didn't say

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[kibean16]

I completely understand your post on this topic. I think straight women intimidate me for the same reason why straight men intimidate you. I think in some straight men, you see glimpses of what others -- society, your parents, even to some etent yourself -- expected you to be. Since you are not that, you are intimidated by people who represent that ideal. Also, the rejection factor -- every time a straight man says something derogotory to you, it's like everyone you "let down", so to speak, feels that same way about you too.

Straight women intimidate me for the same reason. I don't have a group of BFFs 4 Life or whatever, and I don't flip or twirl my hair in front of guys and I don't get manicures and pedicures religiously. My mother wishes I was like that, but I'm not. So when I meet women who are the epitome of what I never could be or never hope to be, I expect that they would reject me right away, hence the intimidation.

Okay, I lost my train of thought. Your turn, lol.

-Kiki

[jeremymlad]

Yeah, the 'letting down'! It's complex and perverse. It may have to do with that general/universal inferiority that gay men feel around straight men. Society has told us that we're not as good as them. I fight against that, and put those thoughts out of my mind, but I'm still touched by it.

[rcm9554]

Meh, the old people are on their way out, pretty soon those that hold prejudices will be even a smaller minority.

Then, we can be the generation that saved the world from the generation that saved the world! HOORAY...

[jeremymlad]

"Then, we can be the generation that saved the world from the generation that saved the world! HOORAY... "

YES! That sounds perfect to me! Good point!

[lugonn]

I don't have a problem with straight guys, per se. But really masculine guys that I think can (and might) kick my ass make me nervous.

Also, really hot guys make me nervous. Guys that are so intimidatingly handsome that I feel like drooling at first sight. No matter how nice they are, I have trouble talking to really, really hot guys.

Gay guys ... in real life I have more trouble talking to gay guys than straight guys most of the time because with a gay guy there are all these extra "possibilities" that adds tension and nervousness.

God - it's a wonder I can speak with anyone at all. I guess there's a reason I choose computer science for my major - a major that is infamous to producing people with very limited social skills (and often with little need for social skills).

[jeremymlad]

I understand what you mean about all the extra possibilities making things nerve-wracking. However, with gay guys I feel a commonality that helps me break through my natural shyness. With straight guys I don't feel that at ALL. Maybe that's the biggest issue. I just really don't feel like I have anything in common.

There are straight guys I like and can talk to, but it's only after I broke through that barrier I feel. For any straight guy who I CAN talk to, know that it came after a lot of work and nerve on my part.

When I can do it, however, I find the relationship very fulfilling and nice.

[schizoscribe]

This is going to sound horribly trite, but . . . hang in there.