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jeni_mae

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Jul 18, 2005 15:09

I have been so sparse for so long on LJ. Not sure what it is all about, I do read it during the week. But at home my internet time seems to be on the back burner, I am not sure if we can blame knitting or what ( Read more... )

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kaleidoscopeeye July 18 2005, 21:17:19 UTC

Yes, I see the same issues with my parents and the way they think. I am just grateful that our generation seems to have jumped out of the loop and made up our minds to see people for what they are...people.

jeni_mae July 18 2005, 21:19:56 UTC

I agree I am grateful that I am not as they are. I do not think they see anything wrong with how they are and that is sad to me. And makes me nervous to introduce them to my friends and the boy thing as well.

kaleidoscopeeye July 18 2005, 21:23:08 UTC

*nods* I have been through that myself.

edtheadventurer July 18 2005, 23:09:17 UTC

I'm not sure what to say. Personally I don't talk much with my parents any more I think that is mostly due to my state of mind these days. I have seen more of what you are talking about with my grandparents, especially my mom's mom. I still never got any details about her reaction to my brother marrying a taiwanese. It didn't seem to bother my parents in the least. I will say that my parents don't do the parenting thing too much any more. They will sometimes and I just agree and then do what I want anyway. It's just easier that way.

jeni_mae July 18 2005, 23:27:39 UTC

I think I am resolving to get where you are. I feel like I can't win with them so I distance myself more and more. I still see them, show up for family things but I am not sure it is of any value to work on those relationships. I have to comprimise who I am to make them happy if even for an hour or two at a time and I am not willing to do that. and it isn't like they really parent now, but they feel they should be able to parent, but they don't and then get mad at us even though we never knew there was an issue. I can be cordial and not confrontational for an hour here and there. But that will be the extent of the relationship and I am having a hard time swallowing that now.

My grandparents are the same way, and even though that bothers me as well I know they are from a small rural town, they were brought up that way and do not have to face it as much. I can see how their thinking would be that way, but my parents not so much.