3766: Gutless

[jen_aside]

[bring to top]

So Spike [whose Ustream is increasingly "see what awful shit Spike is watching/reading"] pointed out an ancient comic about The Nice Guy, who is supposed to be a sympathetic character, ya know?

Except, as the very first comic points out, he's just a jerk. Note: As SOON as the chick says "The B Word" in front of him, all her words

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[digoraccoon]

The smart guys know that even if you don't have a chance with Lady A, it's still a good idea to be friendly because she may have friends in Lady B and Lady C, so you never know if later in a friendship with Lady A she hooks you up. :)

It could happen.

[jimboomega]

It's sort of funny to see you posting about the many failings of the nice guy.

I think the core thesis of the nice guy is - women don't respect me when I'm super nice, therefore, they must want to be mistreated, PROVE ME WRONG.

Of course, most extreme nice-guyism is really a self-confidence problem - the belief that women deserve all this super nice stuff because they are better than me and they have much more to offer than I do. As it turns out, this viewpoint is not an attractive one.

[jen_aside]

I'm going to bring to top a deeper reason why this has got me bent out of shape so suddenly, but the self-confidence thing is more, "OMG I AM SO LONELY ONLY A WOMAN CAN BRING ME OUT OF THIS SLAMP" which reeks of neediness which turns into "I want to marry my mother i.e. someone who will take care of me because I can't." Some wimmins like that, but most don't. They see the attractive wild guy and think, "Oh, excitement!" vs. "Oh, housework!"

At the extreme.

I admit I ended up with one of those Nice Guys Who Wants a Mom, as part of an overall dating tactic to accept attention I was given [I "chased" only two], and that may have soured me on the experience even more from that specific person, with the end result being unreconciled anger occasionally spilling out into online rant fests--another reason I periodically delete some of my stuff 9_9 but more harmless than other things I could be doing.

Like posting Youtube videos ranting and cussing about the very thing I can't have ¬_¬

[jen_aside]

I thought of something else! Nice Guys, prolly by definition, are almost never rich.

So... yes.

[jimboomega]

The "No More Mr. Nice Guy" book I read says "Nice Guys Don't Finish Last... they rot in middle management".

To really succeed financially, barring the obscure lottery/inheritance, you need to be willing to take risks, and generally endure confrontation. You can do alright for yourself, but not get rich, if you're not willing to do so.