Still cranky

[jelazakazone]

Remember how I said was feeling cranky yesterday?  Well, then I wrote that cranky drabble and someone else reminded me that I should try to enjoy the things I have to do, so I gave it a shot but was ready to see the back side of my in-laws by the time they left.  I don't usually mind their stays, but I felt completely unappreciated and undermined

Comments

[princealia]

It sounds like it's hard for her to accept when someone does things differently than she does. She wants to help, but she's being more of a hindrance.

[jelazakazone]

I don't know. I didn't feel like she wanted to help. I've never gotten a judgy vibe from her in the past and I feel like I'm doing a lot better than I have in the past. They are gone now and I'm just going to enjoy being home alone today.

[cryingbaby]

I love my MIL. She cleans my house too much when she visits (but doesn't critize me about my lack of cleaning) and is a little born again christian (we have our issues with that but time makes it better).. but she's really sweet and we get along really well. So I am one of those wives who likes my MIL!

[jelazakazone]

I *used* to like MIL. I don't *love* her, but we've gotten along in the past. I am not particularly interested in being close to her, but I loved how much she seemed to love my kids. She didn't seem interested in interacting with them this time. Who knows. I don't know why it's my job to always fix relationships and I'm done doing it.

[jelazakazone]

The thing that's thrown me for a loop is that she's not usually like this. She used to adore the kids. She didn't even seem interested in interacting with them this time. Ugh. Who knows. They are gone now.

[cryingbaby]

UGH. Sorry, but your MIL sounds grouchy. I hope you have a more relaxing time now that they're gone. I agree, spending time doing something (like going downtown) is better than sitting around a house.

[jelazakazone]

Yes and yes!

[lillibet]

I'm really sorry it was such a downer of a visit. Two thoughts:

1) If she doesn't say it, you don't have to hear it. This was something that took me a long time to learn and has really helped our relationship. Anything not put into words could be her vibe, could be my own baggage, doesn't matter, I don't have to listen to it.

2) It sounds like perhaps there is something going on with her. Having my back messed up this week has made me really sympathetic to people who have chronic (or even occasional) pain. Maybe she didn't want to bother you with the migraine she was having, or something like that.

In any case, congratulations on having survived and I hope the next time is easier.

[jelazakazone]

If she doesn't say it to me? What if I overhear it?

DH is defending her saying she was ill with a cold.

Thanks! There is always the future to look forward to.

[jelazakazone]

Yeah. She's not usually like that. It was weird. Who knows. Silver lining was definitely that the visit was short.

Thanks! I survived and have a very calm week next week. Very happy about that:D

[jelazakazone]

Yes, that's my plan. Maybe more information will surface later.

Looking forward to a calm week!