Been awhile since I have made an angsty post...

[jeibear]

I made a decision a long time ago that if a man wasn't attracted to me because of my weight, that I could deal with that; you cannot help what you find attractive. However, anyone who was "up for some fun" but did not wish to date me was undeserving of my time. Somewhere around the same time, I realised that if someone believed a friendship with me

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[conscience]

I give a solid AMEN to that!

[jeibear]

I know you knowatahmsayinrite?

[bohica_susfu]

Not sure what to say, I know I have been on the shunned side before (not in this group, that I know of, but I'm not always very perceptive) and I know Alex has certainly been made aware of his shunned status on multiple occasions.

Since I am not quite sure what I want to say, I will simply give: *hugs*

[jeibear]

Thank you. ::hugs accepted and returned with a happy "Squee!"::

I actually don't mind the shunning so much, especially if it is by just one person and I have gotten used to it. When I was the "outcast" by a lot of folks, I was unhappy, and just stayed away. Slowly but surely, I have repaired ties with most everybody at some level and if there is an honest holdout, well, so be it, I have tried to be friendly and welcome any overtures, while not pushing myself...I would rather she just be honest than this fakey shit for the sake of show. Own your feelings and your actions and don't try to pretend. Folks don't need to pretend with me. I am happier with honesty, truly.

::hugs you again, just in case you weren't expecting it:: Heehee.

[jeibear]

Icon love btw.

[jeibear]

Thanks, Weeg. I like to think I have it sorted out. At least I do, and then the behaviours change, throwing me for a loop again. The most important thing I have learnt in the past couple of years is how damn much I DON'T know. I am attempting to achieve some level of wisdom.

Alas, you know the person well, and while I don't think the person is overall a sad individual, these actions are indeed sad. I think she is a supremely stubborn one that took a stance two years ago that she regrets the severity of, but would rather pull this crap than lose face in front of a group she professed to speak for.