“a perfectionism, when a wish to be perfect is confused with a wish to do any work perfectly” is that really the key difference? The separation looks a bit artificial, practically invisible. As regards ubnormal size of perfectionism, the criterion, which can overweigh degrees of anybody’s satisfaction, seems to be the following - increasing disability to control the degree of both intensivity and extensivity of wishes to be perfect. Which borders on insanity as a threat. The same threat occur in connection with our wish to be perfect, as well. In such case, both terms are mixed together. How to deal with it? :))
how to deal?... probably, try to limit the polishing -) or ask somebody to control your work. there is a such criterion of successful work in software development for example: if a product is satisfied to the spoken (writen) conditions and requirements. So, if our work does then we consider it has been done good. Of course the product can be (and in many cases should be) improved. Owner and we count the time/effors/money for one or another improvement... And the next cycle. Here may we should suppose the same method: if our work is satisfied to evident and useful requirements then we can stop ourselves. And if tomorrow for some reasons (reasonable!) our work should be continued or improved then we should define the new "acceptance" frames. and so endlessly -)) joking
Right on!!! hurray!) that's a perfect criterion - or at least close to perfection ;)
ps and I made some conclusions for myself as for the teacher. the given tasks (to students) should be very limited, moderate - thus therree are more chances for them to be done!_)
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As regards ubnormal size of perfectionism, the criterion, which can overweigh degrees of anybody’s satisfaction, seems to be the following - increasing disability to control the degree of both intensivity and extensivity of wishes to be perfect. Which borders on insanity as a threat.
The same threat occur in connection with our wish to be perfect, as well.
In such case, both terms are mixed together.
How to deal with it? :))
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there is a such criterion of successful work in software development for example: if a product is satisfied to the spoken (writen) conditions and requirements. So, if our work does then we consider it has been done good. Of course the product can be (and in many cases should be) improved. Owner and we count the time/effors/money for one or another improvement... And the next cycle.
Here may we should suppose the same method: if our work is satisfied to evident and useful requirements then we can stop ourselves. And if tomorrow for some reasons (reasonable!) our work should be continued or improved then we should define the new "acceptance" frames.
and so endlessly -)) joking
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that's a perfect criterion - or at least close to perfection ;)
ps and I made some conclusions for myself as for the teacher. the given tasks (to students) should be very limited, moderate - thus therree are more chances for them to be done!_)
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Never be complete
Stop being perfect
and along with them there were not less nice)-
Accept your fate.
Losing a hope means freedom.
Cut the foreplay
By-products of life style obsession
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Those quotes sound rather pessimistically. let's be realists inclined to optimism -)
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